If you hate it, you’re jealous. If you love it, you’re shallow. Tuesday night marked another battle for womankind against womankind in the form of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show.
It’s flooded Twitter feeds, Instagram profiles, Facebook news feeds. Every woman (and some men) seem to feel a very urgent need to voice their opinion about the #VSFashionShow.
Last year, the annual event was the topic of discussion in the opinion writing class. One seemingly clueless girl presented in front of our fiercely feminist professor the reason that girls everywhere should idolize these women and participate in the constant showering of adoration they receive this time of the year. Our professor thought not.
They are the standard of beauty, the girl stressed. Why would we punish them for looking the way they look naturally?
They are unrealistic, said the professor. Why would we want to hold girls up to an unrealistic standard of what is beautiful?
And here lies the struggle - do we, as intelligent, understanding, sophisticated women accept or reject things like a lingerie fashion show?
In accepting the show, we are also accepting and encouraging this societal acceptance of beauty. We are telling ourselves and each other that the way your boobs look is more valuable to society than your thoughts on Syria. We are telling each other that beauty is defined by a low body weight, long legs and push up bras.
In rejecting the show, we are saying that buying things like lingerie are for men. We are saying that these women who accept their sexuality are wrong for doing so. So many times we praise women who accept and flaunt being themselves and being secure and confident - why shouldn’t we accept those who do fit the exclusive societal standard?
And then come the assumptions about the opposition - if you hate the show, it’s because you’re jealous. You are envious of these women. You don’t appreciate fashion. With those values, it is assumed you don’t wear makeup, or do your hair, or do anything that can be confused its origin is to please a man.
If you love the show, you are shallow. You hold yourself and others to a standard of beauty that is seemingly unobtainable by the average woman. With values like that, it is assumed you care more about sequined underwear than world issues.
Instead of assuming these traits about each other, or starting social media catfights, why don’t we treat our opinions on the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show the way we treat discussing politics and religion? Stay neutral and reserve it for your friends - and I don’t mean the 500 you have on Facebook.