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I should probably mention that I’ve moved my blog, in case anything is still sending people here. It’s over at my website, now. You should check it out. You might like it.
I’ve had several concerns in my head for a while that just found a way to connect themselves, and it all relates to quantum physics, or the little I know about it. See, the way I’ve heard it, in quantum physics, the outcome of an experiment can be altered simply by observing it. I’m probably way off there, but it’s something like that and the point applies here. See, I’m tired of hearing about self-help books. I’m tired of people telling me to “set a goal,” and how to “maximize” the efficiency of my personal or professional life. I’m tired of blogs giving me advice on just about anything. And it all comes back to this:
I feel that everyone’s doing so much talking about things that nothing is getting done.
That’s not to say that the folks over at Brazen aren’t getting anything done when they’re not blogging – I get the impression that they very much are. They seem driven and passionate, and that’s great. I just don’t see any use in blogs about how relationships are like businesses and partnerships are like marketing and people are like brands and brands are like business cards and business cards are like our hearts and whatever else. I think a lot of people see use in it but I think that instead of expanding their horizons, many will contract them by seeking out this advice.
It’s because by reading other people’s answers, we have a harder time finding our own. By measuring our problems, we define them and change ourselves.
I was overweight in middle school and into high school. At a certain point, I started growing up — a change in habits, a change in my biochemistry — and I lost a fair amount of weight, which simply left me a tall, lumpy stick figure. I couldn’t do a push-up to save my life. I honestly have no idea how I used to get out of bed. Anyway, this was back in the heyday of LiveJournal. Remember LiveJournal? I resolved to get in better shape, among other things. Presuming it was the mature thing to do, I set forth goals and announced them: I would go to the gym x times a week, practice guitar y times, read z books.
That plan failed miserably. But I kept doing the same thing. New goals, new failures. Over the years, small things changed, I slowly improved in many ways, but my resolutions not only crashed and burned, they set me back.
I came to the realization recently that what I needed was to grow, and to work toward becoming the person I want to be. I don’t write down goals – sure, I have an ideal body fat percentage in mind, but only for fun. I want to be better. Life, it turns out, isn’t a video game or a biography. I can’t set to work getting good at something, accomplish it, and move on. I need to change my mind.
I want to be better, and that won’t ever come from keeping a blogger’s advice in my head. So of course, I don’t mean this as advice. It is, however, something to consider. I think the more we focus on getting what we want and the less we focus on becoming who we want, the more society will suffer on the whole. Instead of focusing on branding yourself, why not focus on becoming the person you’d like to be?
It seems that focusing on the outcome instead of the source will always result in a temporary solution. Convincing a company to hire you based on anything but the person you actually are seems a doomed strategy. The same holds true with dating, and perhaps even more – all that matters is a legitimate connection. Forcing anything there seems even more foolhardy.
I don’t know, I don’t have answers. I don’t like answers; they’re rarely definitive. I feel like the only answer I can accept is improvement.
I want a tattoo.
No, hear me out. I want a tattoo. I’ve never seen a tattoo I liked, but I want a tattoo. I once knew a girl who had dead fish tattooed on her shoulder blades because they “looked cool.” They didn’t, but I still want a tattoo. I knew someone with paper cranes tattooed on her wrists. I don’t know why. I don’t know what’s up with art chicks and paper cranes. But I still want a tattoo. I’m terrified of needles, and I’m often quick to pre-judge someone if he has a sleeve tattoo or a tribal across his biceps or she has a something flowery painted on her coccyx. I don’t even know what I would get, but I want a tattoo.
And it’s only because I’ve managed to separate these people from the root concept. It’s something I’ve noticed a lot of people refuse to do. We don’t have to like everything, and we don’t even have to accept everything. But it just strikes me that a lot of people don’t give most things a chance, and it causes a lot of problems, not the least of which is a loss of brain plasticity (something in which I put a lot of stock).
I just told my friend Carla that I want a tattoo, and her reaction, unsurprisingly, was “no you don’t.” I suspect many of my friends would respond similarly. I’m a pretty big nerd, so even if one did appreciate the “tatted guy” aesthetic, I would likely not fit the bill. The thing is, I’m not drawn to that aesthetic, or any other tattooed aesthetic that I’ve encountered. I’m drawn to tattoos by their nature: they are permanent and hopefully unique. Deliberate, artistic scars. In the age of user customization, what could be a more personal expression than modifying one’s own skin?
Now, like I said, I’ve never seen a tattoo I liked, and I don’t have to. That’s not the point. I don’t have to like what I’ve seen in order to accept their premise, or perhaps to accept a premise I’ve only inferred from their existence. What I do have to do is move past my initial, superficial train of thought — the one that is ready at a moment’s notice to inform me where my keys are, how warmly to dress, and what I’ve thought of the tattoos I’ve encountered — and begin to analyze. People’s tastes will differ, there’s no escaping that. But that doesn’t make their whole personality flawed, nor the things they do, nor the things in which they believe.
Here is a list of a few things I would have missed out on, had I not looked past my preconceptions and analyzed them for what they were to me:
- Harry Potter: I was forced to read this in high school after a while of acting too cool for children’s books. Turns out, I love children’s books. Good ones, anyway. The sense of fantasy and wonder, well-conceived, is unadulterated by pretense or supposedly “adult” concerns. You don’t have to like it, but I absolutely do, and this realization helped me to discover that maturity needn’t come at the expense of … for lack of a better phrase … one’s “inner child.” I will certainly never need to find mine, because he’s alive and well and always has been.
- Twitter: I’ll be honest, I’m still not sold on Twitter as it relates to me. I use it, and it’s interesting. I’m certain I’m not using it to its fullest extent. But everyone in the social-media, web-2.0 crowd will tell you how necessary it is to develop an online presence. And it’s interesting, and it’s introduced me to more new trends and interesting sites. Were it not for the urging of a certain friend and my curiosity to understand this strange phenomenon, I’d be entirely out of the loop on this one.
- The Democratic Party: This one may be a shock to people who know me, but I was vocally supportive of the war in Iraq when we went in, because I believed the words of our President, and I was really annoyed by whiners on the left — of whom I’ve encountered plenty. I only became interested in the Democratic Party and the left after a friend of mine started telling me a whole bunch of things about the Bush administration, none of which I believed until I took the time to look into matters. The more I looked into things, checked and double-checked my facts, the more I discovered a host of things I disagreed with. Once again, it was only because I weighed the facts instead of leaving it at gut reaction.
- The list goes on: the Arcade Fire, football, Wolf Parade, 24, the West Wing, Slavic Soul Party, Joanna Newsom, Ayn Rand…
In the interest of fairness, and to further illustrate what I mean when I say opening up to things doesn’t necessarily mean liking or accepting them, here are a few things I weighed on their own merits, overriding my own preconceptions, and discovered they were still things I didn’t like:
- Twilight: I picked this up because vampires are pretty cool, and every girl I know was raving about it. So yeah, I knew it would be girly, but I thought maybe, just maybe Twilight might be for girls in the same way that Harry Potter is for children. It is absolutely not. It is teen fiction written — and written poorly — for teenage girls. I’m told the second, third, and fourth installments add the character development that is sorely lacking from the first, but I have used up my patience with Stephanie Meyer’s writing. The DaVinci Code was trash, on a level with Tom Clancy, but Twilight really does belong in middle-school girls’ lockers.
- Panic! at the Disco: That stupid little exclamation point in the middle of their name just really annoyed me, so I didn’t want to like them. But I kept hearing good things, so I bought their debut album on sort of a whim. I found it poorly executed and not fun or interesting to listen to, and it was the first piece of music I ever deleted from my iTunes library — I have a collection compulsion.
- And again, the list goes on: Lost, the Corpse Bride, cardigans and girl jeans (oh, hipsterdom), Creative Nomad Jukebox…
So that’s my observation. I don’t expect people to agree with me about everything, and I certainly don’t expect to agree with everyone myself, about a great many things. But I think a lot of progress would be made, and often new common ground, if we tried to approach things without preconceptions. More understandings could be reached. I don’t agree with the Republican platform, but I know a few whom I respect because their ideas are valid and rational and they clearly believe their ideas are the best route. They might even be right, but of course I don’t think so.
I guess that’s it: we have to allow for the possibility that we’re wrong. But it doesn’t mean we always are, or that we can’t make an argument for our beliefs. Just allow for the possibility of a better argument.
Hey, I never claimed to be succinct.
We are different, right? I hear it everywhere: Generation Y is changing things. All this talk about social media, Web 2.0, and the “flattening” properties of the internet serves to tell the leaders of modern government and industry: “We are different. Some things are going to change around here.” And I love that. Progress! Innovation! I’m all for it. But may I make a suggestion? Can we move past the jargon-filled, pseudo-intellectual, bastardized English of our predecessors?
Please?
Do you have a parent who knows how to use GChat or AIM? Do they try to send you quick emails using words they obviously perceive to be web-savvy? Do you cringe every time you see a new internet user, who has clearly familiarized him- or herself with the internet by watching late 90′s movies about hacking and the ‘net, snding msgs 2 u liek ths?
This is how people think we type, everybody. Obviously not everybody feels this way, but what’s worse is that often, they’re right. This relates in two ways to the point I’m trying to make. The first is simple: seriously, have some self respect, everyone. Spell-check is not that hard to use; “your” is possessive, “you’re” means “you are;” the only time you don’t have an apostrophe in a possessive that ends in “s” is the words “its,” as in “the dog chased its tale.” But okay, okay, it’s more than that.
When entering a new social medium, be it a new job, a new social environment like a club, or something like the internet, we observe the behaviors of those we meet. We adopt many of their mannerisms and assumptions as a means of assimilating. This, I hope, is why people new to the internet are so bad at writing.
And it is why I hereby propose that we, the fresh new minds of Generation Y, stop using words invented or destroyed by 80′s businesspeople trying to sound business-savvy. Please! Just because day-glo and big hair are coming back in the hipster crowd, it doesn’t mean it’s okay to carry on with this nonsense. Here are a few rules that I propose we enact:
- Nouns as verbs: Many of these have become quite accepted now, but really? “I will decision that in the morning?” There’s already a verb for that, world. That verb is “decide.” Is it so much harder to “delegate a task” then to “task” someone? This is just lazy, no matter how much you “effort” it, and if there’s one thing we don’t want to be, it’s that.
- Impact: I’m fighting a losing battle here, I know, but the Common Usage argument isn’t enough for me. When did “affect” become not good enough? What did it do that people decided to abandon it for this word? Impact, as a verb, has meant a physical trauma, as in “impacted bowel.” When something impacts you, you need to go to the hospital. The connection was made, at some point, between impact as a noun, which can mean “effect” (not “affect”), and impact as a verb. It’s another case of verbal laziness, where “How has this had an impact on your life” becomes “how has this impacted your life,” and it’s sloppy and it sounds like something out of a business memo.
- Literally: The word “literally” has come to mean its exact opposite for so many. Even Vice-President-Elect Joe Biden uses the word constantly and incorrectly — no matter how much faith I have in Barack Obama, I am certain that he will never “literally change the direction of the world.” Literally is used specifically to clarify the expression being used is not figurative. If somebody says to me, “I literally wet myself laughing,” I expect the next step to be a change of pants. The oft-uttered phrase “like, literally” makes little sense. Enough has been said about overuse of the word “like,” but I accept its use in a social context as a word meaning “basically,” or “thereabouts.” It is, however, in direct conflict with the word “literally.” Something can be “like six hundred feet tall,” or “literally six hundred feet tall,” but it cannot be “like, literally six hundred feet tall.” If you are looking to emphasize your hyperbole, try something less exactly opposite, like “seriously” or “legitimately.”
- Which: This is a grammar rule, but I feel a need to mention it because it, like so many others, is often abused in an attempt to sound more technical. It’s really a pretty simple distinction between “which” and “that” — this link should explain it clearly enough, there’s no need for me to do so. All I’m saying is: when you misuse words like this in an attempt to sound smart, you’re taking a risk. If the person with whom you’re talking is smart, you will look dumber than if you hadn’t tried.
This column is full of a lot more issues, if you’re interested in writing well, but a lot of it gets into smaller stuff. All I’m asking is that we drop all this fake jargon and filler vocabulary and use words that mean something. I’m well aware that I write more like a robot than many, trying not to end a sentence in a preposition even in casual conversation (of course it still happens), but that’s not what I’m asking for. Please, kids. When we tell those currently running our corporations and governments who we are, let’s do it right. Let’s prove that we are smart and capable, and that we can and will run things around here.
I grew up in an America where love conquered all. What’s more all-American than Disney? Ariel and what’s-his-name from the Little Mermaid weren’t even the same species. So yes, she changed into a human, but that has entirely different implications. My point, today, is: with a fifty percent divorce rate in America, are we really going to start arguing which kind of love is okay to have? Obviously there are a whole lot of people who have illusions about all of this; who are they, who are we to decide what the real thing is?
I’m straight. I find women attractive, and men particularly un-attractive. That’s what happens in the chemicals in my body. I hear priests and pastors argue about this “immoral choice” among the gay community, and I’m confused. Now, I’m straight, and I haven’t experienced this, but these pastors presume, so maybe they have: do other straight men wake up with some insatiable urge to rub their stubble against another man’s? Do straight women feel a need for — boy, I don’t even know. Do these preachers face this need every day? Because I don’t. I absolutely don’t. And the impression I get is, gay men and women don’t face that choice either. I feel like, if I had the choice, I would choose to be straight, because, well, it’s got to be so much easier. This choice argument has never settled well in my head.
I went to Catholic school. Granted, it was a Jesuit school — oh, those crazy academics — but they taught me some pretty fascinating things. I read the Bible, one of the primary quoted sources for homophobia (and yes, I choose to use that term because I think that’s what it is), cover-to-cover, and analyzed it book-by-book and page-by-page, and I found little in it to condone the outright outrage in modern America toward gays. Yes, I’ve seen Leviticus, and Corinthians — they decry the immorality of prostitution and sport-sex. Perhaps it’s a symptom of other problems, I don’t know, but it’s disturbingly ignorant. The Jesus I read about taught love and compassion and explained that those who followed Him on Earth should do what they could to enrich their society and spread the Word, and that God would to sort out those who had been faithful. Jesus preached love; love is one of the most common words I have found in sermons and religious literature, and yet one of the least common concepts found in public American Christianity.
I have yet to attend a church where the sermon denounced the immorality of homosexuality — they focus instead on positive things like God’s love, mankind’s hope, and community — yet any national advertising campaign you see that mention’s Christ’s name is without fail discussing the “slippery slope” from gays to bestialists (or perhaps abortion, but that’s an argument with an entirely different set of parameters). This dismays me because I know several Christians who seem to me to be … just … much better Christians than the people for whom these ads speak.
I’m agnostic, maybe even atheist, but it’s not because of any disdain for religion — in fact, I’m somewhat jealous of the faithful. I just can’t work it into my head right. The way some people describe a hole that God filled when they found Him, I can’t find a hole to fill. All the same, I’m an American, and as such I believe in tolerance, equality, freedom, and a whole bunch of other fairly universal ideals. So it blows my mind how anyone who grew up in the same country I did could have such loathing and animosity for another human being. If God truly doesn’t see all loving couples equally, why should He not decide? Do you not disregard His call to “let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone” (John 8:7), do you ignore the very fact that Jesus’s disciples and apostles were these very social outcasts?
What harm does it do anyone else to see such love between members of the same sex? If you feel like the gays down the street getting married are a threat to your lifestyle or — as many claim — your children’s lifestyle, doesn’t that say more about the way you live your life than the way they live theirs?
How is it anyone’s place to deny a fellow member of our famously free country equal protection under the law on the grounds of whom they choose to love? From what threat are we defending America with things like the Defense of Marriage Act? Whose marriage is being harmed by the affording of equal rights to all citizens? This was what made America great — the chance of opportunity for everyone, with no prerequisite allegiance to a specified God or monarch. Would you ruin that? Would you tread on the great foundation laid out by our forefathers?
Related [Note - this was written before Nov 4 but things got busy. Still there's plenty to do if you're up to the task]:
- CA, No on 8 - Passed, disputed
- AZ, No on Prop 102 - Passed
- Human Rights Campaign
- Gay Rights Watch
I may have recently worked out why I have experienced what seemed to be an alarming amount of right-wingedness among the youth I encounter. Not alarming because I disagree, though of course I do, but alarming because traditionally the youth are liberal and often grow conservative with time; what would it mean that these young men and women were already so staunchly Republican? I could not put my finger on the reason, though, until I was thinking about Carla’s blog, and all this talk about Generation Y — a concept that, despite being an internet junkie, I was only introduced to a few months ago. Then it dawned on me, an amalgamation of several trains of thought that have been winding through my head for a few years. Why was I meeting so many conservatives when anecdotal evidence still pointed to a primarily liberal youth demographic? The short answer might be: because of the circles I frequent.
I have always had an odd detachment from myself, and thus often find things I do, or think, amusing, as one often does with another person. In this way I have always been fascinated by the contrast between my relatively conservative personality and my very liberal political stance. I don’t do drugs, I value personal responsibility and integrity and am mortified to have to rely on others; a large portion of the Democratic platform has little affect on my life, as I am a straight, educated white male.
More than that, though, I would like to do well by my own merits. I therefore frequent circles wherein, conceivably, many of the more driven, sometimes smarter, youth of my generation collect. In this way, I have unintentionally created a filter that only allows certain people in. This is not to imply that smart people are Republicans (oh-hoh-hoh) — what occurs to me is that driven people, people determined to make something of themselves and excel, will find ways to differentiate themselves from their peers, especially when their peers’ behavior is noticeably bad.
This brings us back to Generation Y. Supposedly, Generation Y was brought up in America with too many people saying “Yes” to its members and not enough emphasis given to independence and personal reliability. Exhibit A: the trust-fund hipster trend. I was not raised in such a fashion. Nor was I beaten or neglected: my parents encouraged me to do well, but to do so by my own effort, and they reprimanded me for behaving irresponsibly.
Republican youth, I imagine, emerge from a crowd of these pampered Gen-Yers, apparently convinced that personal responsibility is on its way out and the only way to stop it is to pull the rug from under those who refuse to stand on their own. It is a disconnect, to be certain: a poll of specific youth is not an accurate representation of other youth, let alone of the population on the whole or of any trend for the future of society. Yet in fairness it can be difficult to see the behaviors of those that surround us and not draw universal conclusions.
I, too, see some of my peers blame their failures on others and expect full compensation for these grave injustices, and I am equally frustrated. I simply react differently to the situation. My political self-justification, however, is a topic for another blog, or in fact every other blog I write.
It is my hope that this is the cause for what appears to me to be a startling lack of compassion among some of my peers. If it is the case, I cannot say that it is entirely unjustified — to work hard among peers who seem not to do so can be a frustrating experience. This would also imply some hope for the future: it would not necessarily preclude compassion or charity; I know some Republicans who are certainly compassionate and charitable, but simply believe in a different model for government.
Clearly, there is some measure of parental influence as well: I had a friend try to explain to me that his family, with an income over $250,000 (that’s a quarter of a million dollars) per year, is not particularly well-off, which was startling.
But if there is more, if somehow, these people have already been seduced by the idea that the ideal way to live life is only for oneself, then I am concerned. I am concerned because it would not limit these trends to a skewed sample by social groups, and I am concerned because despite the Right’s constant outcries of a country on its way to socialism, even despite the recent election, modern politics have trended steadily rightward. If, in fact, these peers of mine are not swayed by the value of hard work but by some twisted scale of worth (I have heard the term “worthy” used on occasion by those on the Right, and it has sent a shiver down my spine) and arbitrary moral judgments, it would be a disturbing and unpredictable trend, and I would worry about the future of American politics.
This political season, both candidates are talking a lot about change. I won’t go into who was saying it first, but I was inspired a moment ago to look at one of the current controversies from a new perspective, the way they’ve both been saying they will look at American government. So here is something old from a different angle, for the reader’s consideration.
The McCain campaign and indeed Senator McCain himself (whom I do not fault for many of his campaign’s failings) have pounced heavily on Senator Obama’s remark to “Joe the Plumber” that “When you spread the wealth around, it’s good for everybody.” This, in the Republican eye, is socialism. First, people need to brush up on their knowledge of the ideologies backing up their ghoulish stereotypes. Beyond this, though, this was an oversimplification, a mis-characterization of Senator Obama’s approach to tax policy, a policy that simply allows the Bush tax cuts, widely criticized as irresponsible (even by John McCain himself), to lapse as they are scheduled to do and replaces them with more responsible cuts. This argument has been made, though, and I’m not here to discuss it — you won’t listen to it anyway, not if you’re one of the ones who’s been throwing “Marxism” around like it’s a synonym for “terrorist” (it’s not).
What I want to ask is this: if John McCain so vehemently opposes “spreading the wealth around,” and so clearly supports Bush’s tax cuts, which benefit primarily the top 1% of Americans, would it be fair to say that he supports a consolidation of wealth? Obviously the spread of wealth is to be opposed, so is this not the implication? It’s certainly the direction the country has taken the past eight years, under the guidance of McCain-endorsed economic policies. The wealth gap has drastically increased and as a result the middle class is under tremendous strain, a fact that both parties concede (though McCain less willingly).
For a party that has spent so long decrying elitism, the implication of a plutocracy seems disturbingly off-message, but judging by the GOP’s adamant rejection of Obama’s suggestion and its black-and-white (no pun intended) worldview, it seems a reasonable inference. Perhaps moreso than the cries of socialism, looking at those who will profit most by Bush’s and McCain’s tax policy.
These accusations have been leveled at McCain and the GOP before, but never has there been so clear an endorsement in of the consolidation of wealth from so high up. Senator McCain says “I don’t want to spread your wealth” to a country largely populated by those without any wealth to spread or any chance to attain any wealth. Who would his policies, and his attitudes, truly benefit? And what will we have, if every American buys into the Republican fear tactic of “someone is trying to take your money?” As the economy falls apart and every effort to stimulate spending, lending, and investing seems to have no effect, is it a good idea for the Republican party to urge Americans to cling to their wallets like nothing else matters? If Americans are truly swayed by the emerging argument that hoarding is a fundamental American value, what will this new-found selfishness do not just to the wealth gap and the economy but to our minds?
So the McCain campaign and the GOP have gone McCarthy on America, whipping many into a frenzy of blind nationalism and fearful unreason. Their battle cry: “You’re either with us or you’re against us,” though the first “us” refers to the GOP, and the second, to America as a whole. Hopefully this is a last desperate swing at an election that is slipping out of their control, but it’s dangerous all the same. If we aren’t spreading the wealth of this prosperous nation, if we opt instead for a consolidation of wealth among those who have been somehow deemed deserving, who have we become? Is the beauty of America to fade to a land of inequality, an oligarchy over the impoverished majority?
After making several people whine like little babies after I called them … little babies … in the last post, I was planning to do a few more light-hearted posts. They are definitely in the works, but today is a special day. Blog Action Day is a day when a whole ton (metric, ~2,204lbs) of blogs worldwide post in one concerted effort to affect the global dialogue. This year, it’s one that I feel I’ve certainly discussed at least once, but only tangentially. I think that, even were a Republican to get lost and find his way over here today, he would find no objection with today’s assertion: poverty is a problem.
I’m not going to go into the causes, because they are many and varied, and this post isn’t for pointing fingers. It’s a call to action. Poverty is an indisputable problem. The international definition of extreme poverty is currently $1.25US per day. Just think about living on $1.25 a day. In 2005, at least 1.3 billion people were living below that line. Raise that number to just $100 per month, and you’ve got at least 2.9 billion people under that line, including 96% of East Asia, Southern Asia, and the Pacific. 1.
I just did some research on Puerto Rico, a United States commonwealth, for a marketing class. The median GDP per capita in Puerto Rico is $19,600. That means that half of Puerto Rico makes less than $19,600 per year. that’s under $200 a month, and Puerto Rico is a part of America, albeit not a state2.
This is crazy, everybody. I wish I had more time to talk about this because there’s a lot to talk about, but there are a few mitigating factors: first, Blog Action Day is almost over; second: a lot of the relevant numbers I’m finding are from partisan sources; third: the debate is on, and this is also important. I hope you’re watching it.
If you want to know what you can do about poverty, check out Blog Action Day’s website, and places like ONE.org, which focus on specific areas (One.org is focused on Africa, for example). Make a donation. See if there’s somewhere down your street where you can help out, like Rebuilding Together or Habitat for Humanity. I worked with Rebuilding Together when it was Christmas in April years and years ago, and it’s a great organization. I love putting things together. You know, with power tools. It’s fun. Maybe it’s not your thing – maybe you’d rather make phone calls. There’s always something to do.
Today is Blog Action Day, and today everyone is talking about poverty. Poverty is a problem, and you can help.
1.PovcalNet
2.CIA World Factbook — Puerto Rico
I have written three articles so far, and already I’m getting pleas from friends and acquaintances to “be more positive.” I am a positive person – I don’t see the point in dwelling on the bad in my own life. Many will scoff to read this, but it’s the truth. All the same, there’s nothing fun, interesting, or productive in talking about how happy I am with the direction in which my life is heading. There’s nothing to be contributed to that conversation. The fact is, this obsession with the positive is what’s getting us in such heaps of trouble. That’s right, heaps.
In Savannah, Georgia, where I studied Animation as an undergraduate student, a certain artist had plastered stickers all around town saying “Everything will be okay.” No one understood why this infuriated me so. The reason is simple: consolation is a problem.
Here is news, Kevin. Here is news, Savannah. And here is news, America. Everything will absolutely not be okay. Maybe it will be for you; maybe that mean baristo at Starbucks™ who seemed to snarl at you as you ordered your drink will smile extra-wide the next time he sees you, just to make up for it, and your universe will be back in order. I’m certain everything will be okay for me, because I was born to fortunate circumstances. Maybe you were, too, if you’re reading this blog. But an increasing number of Americans are falling below the poverty line every year, John McCain is threatening to essentially kick 20 million Americans out of their work-sponsored healthcare plans1, and America’s economy, job market, and worldwide goodwill are in free-fall. Whatever you blame this on, it’s happening. On top of all this, we have democratically elected an administration that actually thought it might be okay to ask for a $700 billion dollar loan from the American people and stipulate zero oversight2, government or private. Not only are we in America producing nut-jobs like President Bush, we are electing them to our highest office, and there is a chance that we will do it again.
No! No! I see your eyes glazing over. “Oh, no,” you say. “Politics.” Grow up! There is no consolation here! Not until you start educating yourself, voting responsibly, petitioning your government, and pushing your friends to do the same. There is not, nor should there be, escape from this. This is a contentious arena, to be sure, but you are not mature for staying above the fray. You are shielding yourself from thought and from action, and you are acting like a baby. Well, I’m not getting up for you anymore at two in the morning. I’m not going to pat your back and bring you a bottle. You’re going to have to face this, or it will never get better.
I don’t even care if you vote for John McCain. That’s a lie, I do care, because I think John McCain has abandoned his principles in a quest for power, but we’ll talk about that some other time. Right now the point I want to make is: look into your party. Research your platform, and their social and economic policies. If they truly make sense, then stand by them. Work to see that they are properly achieved. I’m certain that the Republican administration many on the right voted for never saw the light of day. This helps no one.
American politics are just the tip of the iceberg. There is social injustice worldwide; cruelty; starvation; genocide. I hate to interrupt your day, but people are dying everywhere for no reason.
I don’t mean to cast aside your little problems. I’m sorry your boyfriend dumped you, that’s rough. It’s really too bad that your landlord or roommate is such a dick, it is. I don’t mean that these aren’t problems, or that you can’t feel bad about them, or even that you don’t need cheering up for it. But it’s a problem that lamentations about a lack of good men in the world, and how the Mets didn’t make the playoffs, are treated as bigger or – worse – more “real” problems than the billions that “compassionate conservative” George W. Bush and his administration have spent on killing over a hundred thousand Iraqis3 and making children dumber and less safe.4
This is a discussion we will have to have. It’s not a good one; lots of people are angry. I’m angry. I’m angry at you. You should be taking all of this very, very personally. You should be getting angry too. If we want to fix anything, we need to talk. When it’s over, you can drink a Bacardi Breezer and watch Gossip Girl to ease your fragile nerves. But in the mean time, I’m going to stay angry. I’m going to keep being “negative,” until people start actually listening, start doing something. Until people stop acting like politics and world affairs aren’t topics of conversation for polite society. We are evolved; let’s act like it.
1) McCain’s Radical Agenda, Bob Herbert, New York Times
2) Paulson: I Didn’t Suggest Oversight In The Bailout Plan Because That Would Be ‘Presumptuous’, ThinkProgress.org:
Section 8. Review: Decisions by the Secretary pursuant to the authority of this Act are non-reviewable and committed to agency discretion, and may not be reviewed by any court of law or any administrative agency.
3) Study Puts Iraqi Death Toll at 151,000, AP
4) Some Abstinence Programs Mislead Teens, Report Says, Ceci Connolly,, Washington Post:
Many American youngsters participating in federally funded abstinence-only programs have been taught over the past three years that abortion can lead to sterility and suicide, that half the gay male teenagers in the United States have tested positive for the AIDS virus, and that touching a person’s genitals “can result in pregnancy,” a congressional staff analysis has found.
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When I played FM12 I had a player on #NERevs named just "Gil" and he was pretty great. Every time I see Luis Gil I think it's him for a sec
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@RevGunner @deepinthefort Don't get me wrong. I don't hate him. I want him to succeed. Wherever. I just don't expect it at #NERevs
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@RevGunner @deepinthefort Fraid that might be beyond wishful thinking. Delusions?
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@DeepInTheFort @revgunner See: Jerry, a little bit. Should be good, but honestly, when he's out there we're essentially down a man
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@DeepInTheFort @revgunner Worst idea would be to buy someone who looks good on paper & try to jam him into a working system.
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@DeepInTheFort @revgunner If we can find a good fit, great, but I kind of agree with RevGunner… no burning need.
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RT @anildash: Finding ways to "discover content" or get "personalized recommendations" of what to read is a 100% solved problem already. Ma…
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@jlnrkc Like if the text is unselectable
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@jlnrkc I have no idea why I do it. But I *hate* when I can't do it.
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Wonder if many sites have analytics that track clicks even on non-link areas. Cos I click on the text I'm reading constantly & for no reason
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@rgrabe20 Beats me.
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#MBTA is such crap. Out the door half an hour earlier for a T line supposed to come every ten minutes; will likely end up on same train
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RT @RealBostonRams: All 3 goals from yesterdays Soccer Revolution charity match against the Revs in New Britain, CT. Final score 2-1... htt…
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Hwen joo drive slow on de haiwej de other cars will be Hon jure ass.
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RT @rgrabe20: Confused when a basketball tweet sneaks into my timeline.
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RT @MindOfAbram: Cameron for Jones...or how the first 11 should have been. #USMNT
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@rgrabe20 I’m reading this in the voice of an infomercial.
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@rgrabe20 yeah New York is awful.
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Unreasonable Warmth of the Day: I’m no doomsayer, but Maine was the hottest state in the continental US this morning.
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Maine, representing!
Man the clipping plane in the Big Dig is sooo unrealistic. (tunnel out of Boston is full of gray-green smoke) (Taken with instagram)
Really? Steve Jobs dies, so the news vans show up at… the Boylston Apple Store? (Taken with Instagram at Apple Store Boylston Street)
Hah! Nicely done, @metroBOS. If I cared, this would be salt in the wound. (Taken with instagram)
Wow, this is something I had not seen or heard about. Cool! #revs (Taken with Instagram at Al’s South Street Cafe)
Boston is colored like a new Mac’s desktop right now - or maybe Reis’s jersey Saturday #Revs (Taken with instagram)
Neven Mrgan:
A thirty-something dude who’s just been dumped by his longtime girlfriend reflects on the relationship as he rearranges his storage unit. Oh and the boxes in the unit are anthropomorphic. That’s my elevator right there, but this baby’s going up to the stratosphere, so don’t stop me now.
This guy is half of The Incident’s team (far as I can tell), and his blog is also fantastic. What a dick, right?
Kevin Drum at Mother Jones:
…the correct answer is something in the neighborhood of 98%. But even among Democrats, only 42% think that most climate scientists believe that global warming is happening.
Found, as usual, through Daring Fireball (I’ll get some new sources someday), but I have to admit that I would have probably responded “61 to 80%.” I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised to learn it’s so much higher, but like Drum points out, I’ve seen so much stuff talking about the professed “other side of the issue” that I’ve had my understanding swayed to the right.
The Ad Contrarian:
Interestingly, one of the first indications of whether Apple is capable of continuing its explosion of creative energy without Jobs at the helm may be found in its advertising. The product pipeline will take years to screw up. But the ad pipeline can be screwed up in no time.
I found this, as I find many things, through Daring Fireball, but I’m linking to it because I think it has some pretty smart insight on the success of Apple’s marketing, and its success as a brand.
This article isn’t about Apple tech. It’s about the Apple brand. But more than that, I think it’s a good blueprint, or maybe a list of pitfalls, for many other brands today, maybe even yours. I think there are some valuable lessons to be learned from Apple’s marketing, and The Ad Contrarian does a great job of outlining some of it.
Gizmodo:
Nerds: You know more about technology than anybody else, and anybody who knows less than you is a total dipshit. I love you for that. But normal people deserve wonderful technology too. And half the shit you call computing—running custom ROMs, reinstalling OSes, fucking with network settings—is like a chef sharpening his knives over and over and calling that cooking.
Look, I can do that stuff too. I’m not complaining because it’s hard. But this is a point that I really appreciate, and I think it’s a critical distinction in the post-PC wars. And the rest of the article is good, too.
Tom Malinowski, Sarah Holewinski, and Tammy Schultz at Foreign Policy put together a very clever piece regarding the next steps that should be taken after the death of Voldemort. Great stuff.
Linda Holmes:
I don’t have problems with people who leave immediately missing a bonus sequence. I do have problems with them missing the apocalypse.
Haven’t seen the movie in question yet, but I think I might, tonight, or soon. Linda Holmes is always amusing, (and the Pop Culture Happy Hour podcast is just great, week after week) and this article is just an interesting little note about what seems to be a trend that’s getting out of control.
Mike Arrington:
Many in Silicon Valley want to tax the rich into the middle class and let government spend and spend and spend. The super rich tech elite flock to Obama, joining in the call to screw the rich as loudly as all the rest.
John Gruber:
What a crock of shit.
I love John Gruber. He clearly has a bias, but so does everybody else. And the difference, almost 100% of the time – whether it’s about technology (usually) or politics (occasionally) or something else – is that he’s got a really convincing argument, and real, solid facts to back him up.
Elliot Jay Stocks:
Dreamweaver, anyone?
This article has a lot in it, but I feel like this sums it up. To be clear, I use Dreamweaver myself, but never for WYSIWYG.
I don’t know. I guess I’ve never seen a full-featured WYSIWYG editor that doesn’t produce gross code. And I suppose this is less gross than Dreamweaver. But it still looks pretty filthy to me. I suppose the problem is really going to be a difference in mindsets, in understanding of the Web, as Stocks points out:
[Adobe Quality Engineer Jason Prozora-Plein] offers a sort of conclusion: ‘In five or ten years, I don’t think very many people will be coding to design websites.’ In some ways it’s a noble aim, if you believe that code is a hindrance to the designer.
But it’s quite the opposite: code is one of our greatest aids.
The Onion:
Washington, Jefferson, Roosevelt, Kennedy, Bachmann. Some things just make sense. Washington led this country to its independence. FDR guided the United States through the Great Depression and World War II. And I’ve suggested teachers could use The Lion King in their classrooms as an example of gay propaganda.
If anyone can bring dignity to the White House, I think we can unequivocally say it’s me.
I find it hard to believe that there are Republicans who think that she’s the best chance for beating Obama – not to even discuss the idea of her being the best option for the Presidency.
I recall skimming through this article around the time that it came out – skimming partially due to a short attention span, and partially due to the fact that it’s hard to even read about this stuff without pulling a Professor Farnsworth. But my friend Zach Alig just brought my attention to this paragraph, which is incredibly insightful and really gets to the heart of my frustration about dealing with with the Tea Party mentality – and I’d expect nothing less from the article’s author, Matt Taibi:
Snickering readers in New York or Los Angeles might be tempted by all of this to conclude that Bachmann is uniquely crazy. But in fact, such tales by Bachmann work precisely because there are a great many people in America just like Bachmann, people who believe that God tells them what condiments to put on their hamburgers, who can’t tell the difference between Soviet Communism and a Stafford loan, but can certainly tell the difference between being mocked and being taken seriously. When you laugh at Michele Bachmann for going on MSNBC and blurting out that the moon is made of red communist cheese, these people don’t learn that she is wrong. What they learn is that you’re a dick, that they hate you more than ever, and that they’re even more determined now to support anyone who promises not to laugh at their own visions and fantasies.
It’s an instinctive thing to dig in one’s heels when faced with opposition, but I’ve always assumed that a part of becoming an adult was fighting that instinct, even just a little. The question now is: how do you have a conversation or a debate with someone who only becomes further entrenched the more they are faced with contrary points of view?
Mike Krahulik:
Gabe plays Minecraft every single day and that’s no joke. For a while I thought maybe I should be limiting his time because that’s what parents do right? They limit “time”. Then I started looking at the shit my son was doing in this game and I could not ask him to stop.
I wouldn’t think that I’d ever link to something Mike wrote - he’s a great artist, but he usually just talks about … you know, games and whatever. And Jerry’s the writer, and Jerry is a really good writer, so I’d assume that even if I wanted to link about games, I’d defer to Tycho. But this little bit about Mike’s son, Gabe, and Minecraft and the developing brain is just … it’s really great. It’s interesting, and it’s touching.
And it’s pretty short, if you’re not a reader.
Farhad Manjoo:
The first thing that pops up when you visit the website of the San Francisco restaurant Fleur de Lys is a nearly full-screen animation of celebrity chef Hubert Keller’s autograph. That makes sense—when I’m choosing a restaurant, the first thing I want to know is, Can the chef sign his name?
Pretty funny article, and while it’s probably one of a million articles about terrible restaurant websites, it has some interesting insight, and it lets me read and say, “I know, right?! What’s the deal?”
And that’s always something I enjoy.
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- Sept 2009 - PresentOnline Marketing Designer & Developer / Millennium Partners Sports Club Management LLCDesigning, developing, and sending thousands of emails per week to Members, employees, and prospects, in addition to developing, maintaining and improving web pages and web applications in PHP and HTML. Creating and maintaining MySQL databases for a number of purposes including Member communications and class scheduling. Also involved in video production and other design and marketing efforts.
- Nov 2008 - PresentWebmaster / Carlablumenthal.comResponsible for design, coding, and maintenance
- Jan 2001 - PresentFreelance Designer & Developer / Bensaufley.comUsing ASP, PHP and SQL to create easily updateable and modifiable databases and user backends for use in publicly viewable websites; designing and building visually appealing websites using Photoshop, Illustrator, HTML, ASP, PHP and JavaScript (based in jQuery).
- May 2009 - PresentEconomic Initiatives Volunteer / Boston Redevelopment AuthorityInvolved in Economic Initiatives marketing efforts.
- May 2009 - PresentGraphic Design Intern / Smart DestinationsGraphic and web design for web-based marketing through paid avenues and social media.
- Jun 2003 - PresentBank Teller / Norway Savings BankPrimary customer service contact in banking for full-service financial institution, trusted with cash and financial instruments, responsible for balancing transactions and assuring customer satisfaction.
- Jun 2001 - PresentWeb Developer / The Magis InstituteWorked in a team of students to provide websites using ASP, HTML, and graphic design to several non-profit organizations.
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2008 - 2009Emerson CollegeMA in Global Marketing Communication and Advertising
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2003 - 2007Savannah College of Art and DesignBachelor of Fine Arts in Animation
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1999 - 2003Cheverus High School
