Juan van der Hamen y León, Plato con ciruelas y guindas (Plate with plums and cherries). c. 1631. Oil on canvas, 20 x 28 cm.
I bought this product because Hulu served me an ad for it. More typically Hulu thinks I am in the market for Clorox because my toddler keeps pooping in the bathtub (no), but in this case they nailed me. I saw an ad for this product and this ad was relevant to me. Color Whisper is a sheer but highly pigmented lipstick that comes in good colors, stays on a while, and costs less than $6. The reason a lot of dystopian novels from the 80s and 90s have aged poorly is that no one could have fully imagined how complicit we would become in marketing to ourselves without being paid to do it. The color I bought, shown here, is called “Cherry on Top” (it’s perfect!)
I have never once gotten a lipstick ad on Hulu. Am I watching the wrong UNFEMININE things??
I could watch Sali Hughes talk feminism, puffins as beauty icons, and black eyeliner induced eye snot with Caitlin Moran all day long. Happily, there’s an upcoming Part 2.
too much dairy
in my diet
Many of life’s hard situations cannot be explained. They can only be endured, mastered, and gradually forgotten. Once we learn this truth, once we resolve to use all our energies managing life rather than trying to explain life, we take the first and most obvious step toward significant accomplishment.
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OK by now you’ve seen this article in The Onion and been like UGH TOO REAL. Yes! It is too real. It is painful and we recognize ourselves and the choices we have made in this article.
But I think the reason this article is painful is because culturally we define success in such a weird and outdated way. There’s this idea that if you’re not doing what you’re most passionate about all the time, you’re a failure. If you aren’t make a living at it, you’re a failure. If you’re not Stephen King or Christina Aguilera, you’re a failure. And I think we grew up in this kind of 50-year pop culture bubble where we saw many people becoming huge megastars, actors and singers and writers and whatever else. And part of the disconnect we have now about what we should pay for music and books and movies, and how these things should be funded, are tied up with these questions about what we owe to ourselves, and what we feel society & culture owe to us, and the media value we assign to certain “professions”.
I was having dinner with Mary-Kim the other night and we talked a lot about how much more successful as writers we would feel if we didn’t give a shit about our families and lives. I might have gotten farther faster as a writer if that’s all I ever did or thought about, but like, so what? Is that a good model for how a person should live their life? It’s not that I love my day job all the time, but it’s a thing that someone needs to be doing, same as a lot of people’s jobs. And it’s not like me and my job and my writing are completely separate and siloed aspects of my self. My creativity is a thing that comes out in my writing on the internet, in my parenting, and in the rejection letters I send as part of my day job. That’s kind of a success, right? Albeit not one that sells magazines or drives clicks.
Maybe it’s not useful to define one person as the garbage collector and one person as the singer. Maybe everyone is a lot of things. Maybe the self-obsessed celebrity artist culture isn’t that helpful or useful. Maybe eventually we get to a place where we see that books and music and art are created by us, people who have school and day jobs and other shit we care about. And we’re not rich celebrities, and we are all always being pulled in different directions, but we’re present and engaged with the people in our lives? And we value what we contribute as much as what we create? And we create things because want to, and not because we have expectations for what it will get us, or how it will cause society to value us? And we don’t berate and hate ourselves for the very human failure of having a lot of complicated shit to juggle in our lives? That might be kind of cool?
This is a good antidote to that Onion piece, and I like it.
And, I should add, it’s how I’ve always seen myself, and it’s been very frustrating to try to reconcile that with the attitudes of much of the working world, especially in New York.
I can’t stress this enough: Do what you love…in between work commitments, and family commitments, and commitments that tend to pop up and take immediate precedence over doing the thing you love. Because the bottom line is that life is short, and you owe it to yourself to spend the majority of it giving yourself wholly and completely to something you absolutely hate, and 20 minutes here and there doing what you feel you were put on this earth to do.
Cartoon Logic at its Finest
I fucking love this movie.
For reasons passing understanding I was researching the guy who did the voice for Roger Rabbit at work yesterday and YOU NEED TO SEE HIS CURRENT IMDB PICTURE.
Jesus Christ, Fleisch, what happened to you?
During the sixth season filming, Mad Men producers had to ‘politely’ tell Hamm to put underwear on: ‘This season takes place in the 1960s, where the pants are very tight and leave little to the imagination,’ a source tells us, ‘[and] Jon’s impressive anatomy is so distracting.’
Tell it, Alex Fernie. Read it, rest of y’all.
PS: if these guys had stolen a drunk girl’s wallet, spent all her money, and then bragged about it on camera and in text messages, I’m pretty sure they’d be charged with theft. I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t be arguing about the definition of theft, or whether the penalty for theft is an appropriate thing to deal out. We know we’re not supposed to take people’s wallets and spend their money, even if they’re very drunk. We do not live in a theft culture (except for huge banks, which, you know, one thing at a time).
Thanks to disgusting and/or ignorant people like the Steubenville rapists, their enablers, Todd Akin, teems of moronic internet commenters, over 20 senators voting against VAWA, and a tragically tone deaf and clueless media, we are at a specific moment in this country where we’re talking about…
I AM WAY INTO IT WHEN DUDES STAND UP AND EARNESTLY SAY REAL SHIT LIKE THIS!!! GO DUDES!!!
“The most insidious cruelty of rape is that still, in 2013, if you are the victim of a sexual assault, you carry a stigma. Too often you have to prove that no, you did not do anything to deserve it and no, you didn’t just “change your mind” after and no, men are not entitled to a women’s body just because. And if you don’t think that those are actual things that people believe well, then, you aren’t paying attention. Because those are exactly the sort of things that people have said in the aftermath of Steubenville.”
Thank you.
GO DUDES INDEED.
Keep failing until you accidentally no longer fail.
Guys — Magneto is marrying Professor X. Like, literally.
Oh boy this is fantastic.
(Also, Patrick Stewart is marrying a woman 6 years older than I am. What?)
Once when I went to her house I brought with me six immense, heavy, fragrant chrysanthemums.
They had been bought with the three dollars I had stolen.
It pleased me to buy them for the profane old woman. They pleased her also—not because she cares much for flowers, but because I brought them to her. I knew they would please her, but that was not the reason I gave her them.
I did it purely and simply to please myself.
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