First off Happy Armistice Day or
as many people call it,
Veterans Day. Thank you for your
Services ... All generations,
All conflicts and non-conflicts.
My father was a WWII veteran.
His story has been told a few times.
In magazines, newspapers and on TV's websites.
And a portrait painted in his honor.
It's been 8 months since he passed,
He was 87. I miss him a lot. I am
Thinking about him. We have his medals
Encased on the bookshelf.
My husbands grandfather is also
a WWII veteran and just turned 91.
He also had a portrait painted in
His honor. His office is adorned with
His ephemera as 2nd bomber plane
2nd Luitenent along with his medals.
So why thank a care giver?
For one, it's National Care Givers Month.
And veterans and care givers go hand
In hand these days.
The average age of our WWII veteran are
between the ages of 88-92 years old.
And whether they have service connected
or non-service connected injuries, almost
The majority of our veterans need help.
May it be ADL's, just basic help of
Getting to appointments, or day to day things
around the house. They all have a care giver of some
Kind. It usually is the spouse, but most
of the time the Spouse is the same age. So
Then the children will be care givers to
Both parents. And if the children are not
There then the grand children are.
My husband and I can attest to that fact.
I care give for my father for 15 years and
by 11 years for my mom. I know that a lot
Of what was happening with my mom became
difficult to handle caring for two
Parents. That I was very thankful to have
met Eric at the time I did. Sometimes, it
takes two people to care for one person.
But when it is two people, you almost need two
people to care both. It's something many
are not aware of, until they are faced
with the situation at hand. And in many,
if not all cases, It not only the spouse
but also a child or grand child who are
helping. Family Caregiving has risen
10 fold over the past few years.
My mom and I cared for my dad together
for the first 11 years. After she passed,
it was Eric and I. When I was expecting
Lilly On-Ling, It definitely took two
people to double duty with my father and
daughter. Majority of the time, It was
just me with my dad and Lilly On-Ling.
After my father passed away 8 months, Bert,
Eric's grandfather starting to ail. Since
May until now, we have care giving a lot
for both he and his wife Arlene. We do
a lot of long distance care giving with them.
Now Bert is in hospice, just as my father
was. We work together to help both of them.
No ever said getting older is easier, it's not
always the 'golden years' as my mom put it.
My husband has care gived for his grandparents
for the last 10 years. Living with them, helping
them around the house, from his grandmother had
her TIA, ankle break, to Bert's health problems
the last two years. Until most recently.
This past weekend we both went down to their
home and spent another few days with them.
It was definitely needed for both them.
It gave his grandmother an opportunity to relax
and do somethings she really needed to do.
Be herself, her routine and have respite care.
Even with her having private help it's been
hard for her without family there all the time.
So we try our best to be there when it's most
important for them both.
It also gave Bert an opportunity to enjoy
things, like watching the Bears game. It
was good for both of them. It also was an oppportunity
to help out a veteran, so to speak.
If anyone is the star of all this stuff between,
my father and Bert's hospital stays, rehab and hospice
senario it's been Lilly On-Ling. She has
been such an amazing baby to go through with this.
And she is only 15 months old.
She is cooperative and loving. She knows what
is going on and she brings so much love, smile
and joys to everyone.
I talk with my friend Mary, who is caring for her own
husband who has Alzheimer's. We admire each other and
we have always helped each other. We learn so much
from each. Sometimes, that is what is needed the most.
Like Veterans who have been through difficult conflicts,
we care givers have also had a our shares of difficulty.
Highs and Lows, fears and joys.
Once you've been caring for someone...you understand
each other. The same as it is with Veterans understanding
each other. We are a special breed of people.
So, remember, to not only thank your veteran but thank
their care giver as well. It's not an easy task for both the
giver and receiver. Without each of the their services,
I think life would be much harder to live day by day.