TALKING OUT LOUD
What Do You Mean You Toss Them In the Trash?
CHRISTMAS DISCARDS, THANK YOU DISCARDS: ANOTHER MEANINGFUL HOLIDAY CUSTOM IN THE TRASH
(Note, I don't want to change anyone's mind who thinks differently than I do. That would be a waste of my time and effort. Anyone who firmly believes in the opposing argument)
The day I first heard the "Christmas Card giving is a waste" argument, I immediately felt like all the effort I spent picking out a card for the person calling the card I got them a waste was a waste of time. In fact is was more effort than that person deserved or will ever get from me again.
The custom of sending out Christmas Cards or any card is serious business. It represents more than a simple text or an email. In fact it means more than any means of digital communication we currently use.
And now, I'm being told I shouldn't have gotten one, that it will just end up in the trash, that it's really just a big waste of time and effort.
Before I can accept that I want to explain why giving people cards means so much and why throwing them in the trash is the only true waste.
A card from my insurance agent thanking me for being a loyal customer or a card addressed to "Current Resident" from the local grocery store wishing me a merry Christmas, those are cards I would toss in the trash.
But from someone I know? No way.
When did this time honored expression of appreciation and thoughtfulness diminish into nothing but wasted effort or, at best, a nuisance to be tolerated every year?
It must have happened the same time mailing hand-written letters became old-fashioned. Maybe it happened the moment people became obsessed with business and the economy.
Not only are our money and jobs dependent on good business, so are our lives.
Time and effort, everything counted, recounted, accounted and calculated to achieve the maximum amount of output with the least amount of input.
Time spent picking out a card? That's a waste of time. Time spent going to visit each other? That requires more time than we can afford. Those practices are not time or cost efficient and frankly, we didn't like doing them anyways.
Most of the time we rarely find the perfect card. Time spent reading countless cards, picking and choosing, is often frustrating. We end up settling for something we hardly like ourselves.
If we decide to use a blank card and use our own words, we have to do even more work than of we had settled for the pre-made card.
Plus, we have to choose our words wisely. Custom dictates we use a pen rather than a pencil. Handwriting isn't like typing on a computer. The eraser is the original backspace button but pens don't have erasers.
Already it's too much effort. The whole custom of giving cards and rules of etiquette that we use to represent our respect and our appreciation for one another don't mean shit. "Don't waste (your) time...don't waste (your) money". The time and money spent no longer justify the end result.
"No one profits in the end because it all ends up in the trash. It's lose lose."
Card-giving is passé. Card-giving is dead.
So what next? What do we do now? Call everyone? Send E-cards? Text everyone? What we do is what we already do, We Facebook our wishes. It's just not the same.