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December 17, 07:12 PM
I've always been in and out of touch with my father's main pieces; his necklaces. He has been good with his hands since I can remember. There was always some new art he had to share with us. Constant inspiration. He bled art. He's greatly known for his beautiful, classic neck pieces that I've had a hate/love relationship for. I subconsciously hated them because they were so obviously ahead of my time. Even when I pulled them out on special occasions I still felt as if I were wearing my mother's teenage clothing that didn't fit right. These gorgeous family jewels were constantly praised around me. But because of their advancement I couldn't participate with the cheers.

Being that my father made them with his sweat,blood, and tears. They were his prized possessions, his beginning and end of life. Just as he claimed and expressed we were;his family. Maybe I felt like I was competing with them, like a little girl envy. I hated to love them but I wanted to be just like them.

Today, as I make my own necklaces and other beaded jewelry. I can only think of his own which for me is the top notch for elegance. I couldn't deny their beauty then but as I create my own I get to appreciate more and more where it stems from. So now when I have my sessions and I'm in the zone I use them as my personal template for whats perfect. Myself included when I look into the mirror.

It's amazing what a little bead can do.

I find myself thinking of ways to bring them upfront and to the limelight because of their authenticity. The craftsmanship and aesthetic is undeniable. I now use these gems as an every day "pick me up" to be as beautiful as I can allow myself to feel. Its a relief to be able to depend on something that I don't have to wait to speak. I just get it a glance on my neck and the ripple begins.



November 23, 02:46 PM
This video set a fire inside of me that I could not put out. We do not have to search for these messages and hidden agendas when they are thrown in our faces.



I cursed my mother the other day by forcing her to watch "Basketball Wives Reunion" with me. VH1 no matter how I curse that channel. I find myself still tuning into their cheap reality, regardless of my embarrassment and pity toward the people who settle to be showcased. My so called inner "black activist" self will throw all morals out the window for the sake of my own entertainment. Even when I'm appalled I am in some way still enthralled with the degrading behavior. Before I can get into why I think that is so I think I figured out why so many black men and women decide to succumb to such work. For me money can't put a price on my pride or dignity. Even IF I was money hungry I can't imagine turning into a different person and showing out for a dollar and a little fame. The idea that one person will represent for all of their race is a disgusting policy. But all in all its a dead system of hierarchy that continually proves one race must constantly prove themselves. That group obviously being those who audition,fight,scrape, and will burn down any and every one to get their "spot". I think we all can agree that we would just never end up on "Charmed School" and you couldn't imagine being so ratchet on "The Love of Ray-J".

That would never be you? Right?

Can you imagine if someone offered to pay you $100 dollars a day just to participate in a short game show? Do you think you would turn that down if you were just tired of working your 9-5? All you have to do is read a few lines,wear a few clothes, and basically trade in who you are to be who they want you to be. Think about it. I can't say what I would or wouldn't do because I've never had someone offer me money.
But awhile ago my old step coach asked me what would I do if someone offered me a few million dollars for my line of accessories. Taking a step back I had to be honest and I told her I would decline.
If someone noticed my worth and wanted to triple it for themselves, but kick me out of the picture. It only makes sense for me to put out the work to make that kind of money myself.

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My mother had just asked me so simply as if it weren't deep rooted; but why would these women succumb to this kind of behavior? Why were these women dressed in expensive clothing and jewelry treat each other the opposite of their appearances. They were beautiful, they had bodies to die for, and of course, their hair was in place from strand to strand. Yet my mother could not grasp why women who looked of such caliber had attitudes and personalities as nasty as New Jersey smells. And contrary to popular belief not all women who portray these outside beauties have ugly insides. I never could put my finger on it but I do feel I figured out some of this mystery.

I would like to call this the "They chose me system". It is amazing to win, anything in fact. I can safely say that we all want to be the best at something if not everything. It feels damn good to be "chosen". Think back to school at how exhilarating it was to win kick ball or the best painting. I know for me I always looked forward to being "Student of the Month". For my face to be plastered on a huge bulletin board was an honor, it meant that my work and efforts exceeded over everyone in the school. That was something, to rise above alll of the other students and be the best. When you get a chance to win something that you had to work for will show you that any old prize ain't always the best prize.
Then there was the lesson my father taught me that helped filtered out years of me chasing after boys and beating myself up if every guy in school didn't desire me. He told me that they only wanted my draws, nothing more nothing less. At the time of-course I still wanted to be liked and as a young girl I thought I needed the attention. What that did for me was show me that I was not special. Being taught that my flesh was the prize possession I knew it had nothing to do with me. Everyone had flesh and I was no different. I know the negative proportions of that teaching couldn't compare to the humble notions it instilled in me. If I wanted to be treated a certain way I had to make sure someone loved me for who I was and not for what they could get from me.

The women on Basketball Wives feel accomplished to be chosen to be "THEE" Basketball Wife. They get the glory of having fans and haters. They are paid to appear on television as other women were left behind and unpaid. They also reap the benefits of post show stardom (if any). Although these women can pay their full success to the show being their #1 advertisement. I believe that they believe they are successful and have made it. This depends of-course on how you grade success. To go from being "Student of the Month" to being chosen to appear on reality TV which had nothing to do with my homework,attendance,test scores, and overall participation in class. I don't think being mocked and degraded is synonymous to being rewarded as the best and standing out from everyone else.
November 22, 01:29 PM
"The Man in My Basement"
Walter Mosley


Reading has been one of my ALL time favorite hobbies that was discovered very young. I'm sure I've stated this one time or another on here. But I constantly challenged myself to complete the 25 book challenge in grade school. I still have some of my certificates. There is something about a book that completely fills my soul with all sorts of un-explainable happiness. This past summer I have become so indulged in creating (as I had the right to). I totally put off my favorite past time hobbies. I guess I've been trying to spice up my "bio" with more than "I love to read and write". But in all honesty the amount of pleasure and joy I obtain from reading is just indescribable. For me nothing compares to the possible paper cut from my fresh new book. I am an anti- eReader by the way. Its just not the same. What if something happens to my sweet old kindle? How could I possibly pass down my latest read to my friend or child. If you could just disregard my bias and listen to what I'm saying.

I was inspired to create my own list on how to stay creative from this original. Its so easy to become in-tuned with technology and all the greatness it has to offer. I'm all for staying connected and updating. But it can also be counter-productive to constantly working for new and "what's to be". You never get a chance to slow down and see what works and virtually what we end up looking for is the next best thing. Like our ultimate goal is to be ahead at all times but we still end up being in search of something. But not to stray too much off topic like I feel I've done. I began reading again and started slow with a goal of two books a month at random. Of course I'm now reading at the speed of 4 books per week. I buy my books from anywhere I can trying not to glance at the summary so I won't create a pattern.

I finished "The Man in My Basement" earlier today and had the urge to write but not particularly about the book. To start off I was not at all interested in reading any sort of black and white combination. My bad luck has been connecting me with stories that were set during the 1900s and/or are based on the plagues of being black. Now I could care less about offending anyone especially if what I'm stating is opinion based. It's a tired game walking on egg shells because of someone else's sensitive soul. But in concerns to what I would like to not ingest from every single aspect of my life is racism. I am no Oprah I'm aware we live in a racist world and I can see it may be getting worst. From what I read on the internet, to the news, to what I come across every single day without my consent. I would like some sort of control over that topic. I can't escape it and it is not going anywhere. I have been pumped with so much history I can spit it out and rewrite it. I am so sick to my stomach I can't fathom how I actually feel about it. Can a girl at least escape into a world where love is the worlds cure and vampires are superheros?

I did enjoy this interesting dynamic. Besides the unsatisfying end for me I was in-tuned with the real life characters that were put together in this fictitious read. It's a short book but I think worth the after thought.
August 30, 01:10 AM
I have been working on so much as of late. This summer has been a step to my next step and I'm so excited to be opening some doors to a new chapter. Between going back to school in New York, moving back to New York and starting my fall collection of bead work (Link'd w Allure). I don't know when I'm going to burn myself out, I will, happily fall onto my floor with exhaustion. I don't want to relieve too much although I have already. I always like to keep things under wraps until I'm completely settled. I've just been away for awhile and couldn't help but to share some exciting news.

I'm also working on my website for "Link'd w Allure" my fall line of beaded necklaces,bracelets, hair accessories, and men's wear. My father was the first to introduce me to beading and his skill has always intimated me of venturing off into my own style. Something inside of me felt that wasn't my area and I should stick with a glue gun and duct tape. But I have been trying things that I have never done before so I can get results I've never gotten. Its always arousing to discover a new "project" to run with. There's a fire that lights and last for long, an encouraging and refreshing burn. You get this push to concur your to do list you've abandon and get things done, all the while closing out other projects.

I took the down time we had during the storm watch to catch up on my men's wear line (Street View) which basically consists of chain, over sized pendants, and beads. I have took all consideration of what I see being sold in and out of stores but most importantly whats being requested by customers. Wrapped it up with my flair and twist and came up with over 50 designs (lol I know get a life). I am beyond confident that I've hit it on the nail with these accessories. I really feel like I need to be after down playing my capability for so long if I don't believe in me then who else will.



Here are a few other snap shots of my bracelets and hair accessories. They will all be available online September 3rd but for now there are a few up in the shop. Once the official website for my fall line hits you will be ale to order all "Link'd w Allure" products along with "Street View". I have yet to take some photos of my necklaces but there will definitely be an official photo shoot once the website is up which will probably be at the end of September.

For now I will leave you with a photo preview and can always promise you your very first update, on me, here at christielover.com.






August 03, 10:37 AM
I'm not actually bragging about my bad habits or even boosting about them. I just like to pick and poke at them to create a bigger picture to allow me to shake them off. I'd rather laugh at myself and make the light loader than become self conscious of what could be a serious flaw.

In "My Imperfections Pt. 1" I talk about one of my worst nail biting habits, how cheap I am, and my rawness. They were not so much imperfections but flaws that can be considered "cute" depending on how you are looking at it. I would like to get into a qualitie that have bit me in the ass but ultimately gives me a jump start in life.

I have yet to experience a serious pitfall for my "stubbornness" but I have been praised for it because its viewed as perseverance. I know though, how terrible it can be. I refuse to let down even when I am proven wrong, and even after apologies I deem myself right. I have to see things through my own eyes and no matter if I'm for warned I need to experience it myself. All many terrible character traits that I am constantly being called out for, by close friends and family members. It only bothers me when I know I can't do a switch-a-roo and change up for the better.

I was brought up on being versatile and its imperative to learn to adapt. For better or for worst and specifically for out of comfort zone situations. In terms of me being stubborn as I want to be, it has allowed me to put my foot down on my life goals. Which ultimately made me step my game up and challenge myself furthermore. I have turned this imperfection up to 100 and have allowed myself to say yes when an opportunity arises. No matter the impossible or the circumstance, I have re-taught myself the value of yes and eliminated no.

I have dismissed all my "can'ts" and "won't" and now go by "I will" and "I can". My drive allows me to see things from a different point of view. But my determination will put that view into play and this flaw will eventually get me where I need to go.

You heard that "where I need to go"
July 27, 08:17 PM
What I love most about these dolls are the realistic manner that they are in. When I first had a look I instantly thought of my mother then I went onto searching for myself among the flavorful dolls. I did find me, she had her hair short and spiked like I did at the time. She was the closet thing I have ever seen (besides those Chrisite barbie dolls I see floating around Tumblr and not Toys'R'Us) that looked like me. I was instantly in awe and impressed at the execution of black woman, they were nothing more and nothing less. Everything about the dolls speak to me as a black woman and I am so grateful to know one. She has such an unapologetic talented which allowed her to be able to make a black woman so perfectly.



When I look as these dolls so many thoughts trace through my mind which one of the first are of my mother(s). How strongly they resemble the women who raised (and continue to raise me). The dolls exude their strength through their thick thighs and hips. I can feel their independence and funk through their fly shoes and hair. From their earrings I can see their femininity and by the way their arms are crossed I know they are ladies with men abilities. Another thought that comes to mind are all the images I've seen of black woman from birth to this day on and I must say they do not compare. I should be able to read a book as a little one and see myself looking back at me. I should be able to turn on the television and see myself prancing by, there is no reason I should have to search high and low for role models.

When I look at these dolls I can't help but to smile because they truly make me feel strong and beautiful.

















Hopefully with more support and exposure Tanya of MontQ can take what we really look like world wirde
You can email her @ dollsbymontq@aol.com for inquiries of her fabulous dolls
Or you can purchase her dolls @ The Reading Terminal in Philadelphia,PA
12th & Arch streets
Isn't She Fly?
July 13, 02:21 PM
My life is officially complete because I have been able to obtain a few wrap dresses. WHY didn't anyone tell me about the convenience of such a dress? I've been vending and attending street festivals all my life. I remember being dragged on the train and the bus with my other siblings to these shows. I hated them they felt like such a waist of time (because I was being forced to work). Since there was so many of us I never got a chance to buy what I wanted. I was lucky if I got a fruit salad or a plate of food. So for awhile I had to pass up on all the wonderful treasures you get from all these fairs. The expensive handmade but well worthy items. I did buy my first leather belt and bag a few years ago from a family friend. If you are a Brooklyn native and frequent these fairs you should know of George; very pleasant and family oriented. He makes the hell out of leather goods. It saddens me to just now jump on the band wagon because I wasn't able to afford most of the items I was raised around. I lived at these fairs and have accommodated them to my life ( and not because its apart of my parents lifestyle). It pleases me to now be able to buy whatever I want because I have my own table of products to sell.

It's a blessing also that I am able to apply my vending skills to real life. I can use and apply them for my own small business. It was always one of those family activities that I dreaded doing because I didn't know the value. Now I can really appreciate the customer service skills that I've learned and how to be business oriented. Being able to change a 10X10 space and down size to 8X10. I can use those skills to design a store once I decide to open one. There are a lot factors that play into it and I'm happy I have them to use to my advantage.

This was the third day at the International Festival in Brooklyn. It was fairly slow and rainy. But I was lucky enough to be as fly as I wanted to be in my wrap dress.

Click for more photos after the link.










You can few more photos from the festival here

July 07, 05:11 PM
This weekend was one of many others to this summer. I worked hard at the International festival in Brooklyn at Commodore Barry. I was greeted with newer customers and was able to expand with the word of mouth method from older customers. I love how women let us know that they were looking for our booth. They searched high and low and kept their wallets tights because they knew they would find us. I love our customers and they are one of the reasons we are still strong. We have an extremely strong and loyal clientele in Brooklyn and Washington. I really hope it will only grow stronger and wider. I hope our customers stick by no matter what changes we make and no matter how far we go.


We've been working on the family's website and a headache I must say. I have been told a few times how I should think about dipping into web designing because of my website's outcome. I know I am no professional and have not had any practice on training on any other website. Before I think about web designing on a serious scale I would need a better computer and better computer software. I would have to learn how to use photo shop for graphic skills because lord knows I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to editing.












I have gotten a few paid offers for websites but I had to refuse. Not only will it slow down my own work but I am not ready for the headache. Its a miracle I have finished mine in 2 1/2 months. After making my own it makes sense why web designers are getting paid big money. But again I am no professional I would feel terrible about taking money from someone when I have no real skills. Just a talent and knack for mastering anything I put my mind to. Maybe next year I will think about it but right now web designing is not on my list of things to do.



This was before I started my work weekend at International and missed the fireworks for the 4th or 5th year in a row. I have been the festival for a long time now and have yet to miss a year. Before work I got a chance to have a picnic in Central Park one of my all time favorite activities. I can't wait to bring my kids out on as many out door events as possible. Camping is a MUST and so is barbequing there will be no if ands or buts. Speaking of children I am worried for my life about my future seeds. I feel like I already have my own because of my many neices and nephews from my cousins and sisters. I get to experience being a mom before carrying my own and going through labor. Go here to read on why I am in fear for their future.


Also go to wrappedinbows for photos from the International Festival in Brooklyn this past weekend.












Go here to read on a few things I have learned this 4th of July weekend
July 07, 05:18 PM
A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of viewing an old black film from the early 1990's which was based on the 1930's "Stompin' in the Savoy". It was a late night and my television was on Centric (one of my favorite channels). There wasn't much info that I dug up on but I did find out that it was directed by Debbie Allen. To name a few the movie features Lynn Whitfield, Vanessa Williams and Jasmine Guy.



The movie is based on the lives of 4 young women searching for themselves and the struggles they have to go through living in New York City during the 1930's. I myself have learned a few life lessons from the hour and change film. From a collection of my own tribulations between living with a friend and helping a friend. I have drawn a lot from the very realistic line up. In the movie the girls share a room from an apartment together which equipped with two beds and a bathroom down the hall. Clearly an extremely tight situation. It was infatuating for me to see some of my favorite looks being worn originally. It was also agitating for me to see today's individuals completely swallowing the fashions of another generation instead of incorporating the style. I have never favored ones style who happen to have a copy and pasted wardrobe from another time period. It shows their appreciation for the time but really shows how lazy they are. When you are inspired by something/someone it shouldn't be your place to duplicate it. When you don't put your own spin on it and conform it to your style then you don't have one to showcase and you are not original. So all in all visually I was in heaven. From the fur coats to the every day dress wear I was able to appreciate a time that my very father was born into.






According to Pauline (Vanessa Williams) it has always been a necessity to dress inline with your personality and not your budget/career. Basically dress to impress. I now see now how imperative it is to dress as if you are going somewhere important, every day. A lesson I have gotten from my father and has been drilled into my head since grade school. Always appear clean and cut. Most of the movie until key scenes I totally forgot that Pauline was a singer. Had little money to work on, was struggling and juggling her jobs every other week, and also shared a room with 3 other women. Even in the movie she convinced me that she had been rich all along.
I was in love with the idea of 4 women living together and not fighting over a man or something ridiculous. Besides the very regular bickering I love how close they were and went around and worked with their very cramped space. I have always had a slight disturbing love for female friends, especially of a group 3 or more. And when I say friends I mean real friends not the we-look-cute-together-so-we-hang-out kind of friends. OR the "we've been friends since we were 14 and I'm use to you" kind of friendship. I'm talking about the friends that hurt when you hurt and smile when you smile. The kind of friends that will do ANYTHING for you and dare you to try and re-pay. The friends that only want to see you doing your very best in life and are there for you and you only. The kind of friends you can't imagine your life without and will do whatever you can to keep them around. I'm talking about those real girlfriends that genuinely love each other-those friendships in particular are the ones I obsess over. Because I was blessed enough to have 5 sisters of my own I have never had friends like I had sisters. But I still appreciate the women who do find their sisters from another mother. In the movie they weren't all the best of friends and didn't particularly like each other towards the middle and end. But it was how they lived in one space and found a way to be civil and not fight every minute over nothing.


After living with a best friend of my own (now ex because of our arrangement) I can understand their struggle whole-heartily and appreciate their cordial behavior. It is very hard living with a friend when their isn't a common ground on what one room mate is use to and what the other isn't familiar with; heads clash and lions roar. Of course the amount of maxi pads and estrogen flying around doesn't help the union of female room mates, that still certainly isn't an excuse. I do believe it has a lot of do with a woman not being so use to bowing down to another's requests,needs,wants, and opinions. There is something much more deadly in a females ego that just can't touch a man's. There is a powerful force that can not be beat or stopped once it has took a place and made a decision. It is made up of mainly stubbornness and intuition; two things that don't match. Once a woman has made up her mind about something, that is pretty much it on everyone's feelings. I was able to draw my conclusion from experience and from Esther (Lynn Whitfield's character). Alice I believe had asked Esther to play the numbers for her who so happen to owe Esther money. This wasn't the first time she played for her and it was clear that Esther just knew Alice wasn't going to win. But long story short Alice numbers won and Esther made it up in her mind that she wasn't going to share the ticket or her new found fortune with Alice.


I can't really say what I would do if I were to be in that situation, naturally I would tell myself of course I would have shared the money or at least given my friend a portion. But I don't know if I would've flipped it the way Alice did. She eventually invested in her own beauty salon and used her clientele from her old salon (as a washer) in her new store. She had a vision for herself and a drive that allowed her to achieve it. During the process she lost herself and became cut throat and greedy. I can understand how one was once poor and refuses to return to that life style. I can't contest to celebrities like Kimora Lee Simmons who was once poor and is now filthy rich. I have no opinion on their controlling and nasty attitudes. When you have grown up without something and you finally obtain it you really don't want to go back. And in the movie Alice became very vicious because of her fear of needing again. I can not blame her, who would want to
go back to sharing a bedroom with 3 other women. What I think of her back stabbing and promiscuous ways is another story I just can't completely comment on where it stems from. She wanted to live a life that she never had before and she basically didn't want to look back. Who am I to judge when I know what it feels like to not want to go back.


But without giving away the movie this is a definite must see. You will be able to appreciate the fashions of the 1930's, the award winning acting, and learn about friendship up and downs.


July 06, 03:25 AM
I have always loved traveling since I was a little girl, it was always the most exciting for me to get lost on my way to Far Rockaway, Queens. It was an adventure when my day camp would walk from 5th street (lower east side) to central park for picnics. Be it by train, cab, mega bus, or plane (not quit yet). I love to travel. A few weekends ago I took a trip to DC/Baltimore and was I so surprised at the blatant segregation. To my dismay I couldn't really grasp "the chocolate city" being uninformed in terms of diversity. Blacks use to hold 70% of DC's population and has dropped to 50% since the 80s. What is changing beside the cost of living? If I've always known DC for its overwhelming flood of prideful individuals (like myself) what exactly is keeping the city from merging together as one. I felt like an alien as if my color wasn't seen or welcomed. To throw out a few variables to the weird stares I don't think my outfit qualified me for evil looks. I think I was dressed at the excepted level of an outsider; a simple skirt and sandals . I wasn't trying too hard to tone anything down but I figured I was in chocolate city so whatever I did the residents were use to by now. I am still trying to come up with reasonable reasons for anyone to have looked at me funny. This is my second or third trip to DC and each visit I have came up with a different review.

I have been to a community event where I've gotten a taste of family and the love that DC has to offer. I thought I loved DC as a whole but I could only reside in a particular areas. Not to say that DC is the only majority black city with segregation. But again I was still surprised at how blatant it was. I was floating around the white house so I will admit that I did expect more, much more. We are TOO far down in our society to still have this much segregation anywhere. And although propaganda is still a serious practice, does having a black president mean anything? There things that are suppose to shift ones mind eventually even after years of brainwashing. Why do I have to walk down a street and still feel like I don't belong? There is something very wrong with the idea of the only brown people (employees) in a restaurant not wanting to recognize my face and explore what we have in common. That should an automatic.




I would only visit Baltimore because of the sheer stillness and relaxation it brings. I would love to live in DC for a year or two to go into my past experiences and analyze them.

Here is what I wore that day thinking it was "regular enough" to fit in.






I brought this lovely bag at Odunde from Ms. Geri White. She hand paints her bags and t-shirt. I fell madly in love with her brown skinned Betty Boop bags and I end up being forced to view her sexy t-shirts up close. Because I'd rather have someone tagging along with me in my travels that looks like me. I had to buy this lovely bag to compliment my brown skin.

Here are a few photos of her hand painted t-shirts
(Hand Painted T-Shirts you can call her at (202) 882-2788)





June 28, 02:07 PM
A few weekends ago I was in Baltimore and I took a trip down to DC on a short birthday retreat. I found myself at the lovely Rosa Mexicano over on 7th street at F street (across from the Verizon center). I did a little research and found out that there are a few locations in New York. For some reason somewhere inside of me wants to believe those locations are just as good as the one I been to in DC. But I was so amazed at how well prepared the meals were at such a cheap cost. I thought it was treatment I wouldn't be able to get anywhere else.

My experience in DC/Baltimore was nothing short of my feelings in Philadelphia, PA. There is nothing but blatant segregation and a flow of people stuck in another decade. I couldn't imagine living in DC more more then 2 years and Maryland is nice for a short time. But I can see myself traveling all the wee hours to indulge in the ambiance of Rosa Mexicano. Our waiter just so happen to be one of the best in the house (I'm almost sure of it) not only was he not hard to look at but he represented all of what they had to offer. Presentation and food being all of those things, looking over the menu I wasn't expecting anything lavishing. Because there was nothing on the menu that reached $50.00 and most of the food started at $15.00. The whole atmosphere and elegant decor made me think twice about the pricing but in this case I got much more then what I paid for. My food not to mention was as good as it looked I was also extremely impressed at the perfect mix of chocolate and spices. As he explained it I was so interested at this concoction and couldn't wait to dig my face into it. It is as divine as it looks and I wish my memory would allow me to remember the name. I'm sure everything on the menu is just as good because their food is actually as genuine as they claim it to be. I highly suggest everyone to visit Rosa Mexicano if you haven't already and I'm just late in the game.



You can visit their website to find out your convenient location.
June 13, 04:40 AM
It never mattered if I agreed on their topics there is something about their unapologetic manner that attracts me and keeps me reading. I am in love of their fearless and encouraging articles. I suggest every and all black women to indulge in Clutch Magazine at least once a week for a does.


The “race card” is a concept that has been used to silence people of color who attempt to speak out when they feel that race has been used unfairly in determining how people are treated. It is one of the most dangerous weapons in the White privilege toolbox, for it implies that a non-POC would know better when something is truly racist than someone who is constantly subjected to racism. That said, it isn’t that people of color can never be wrong about denouncing something as racism, but that they should be treated with a level of deference when expressing their concerns. Instead of having something dismissed as someone pulling a card, these complaints should be respectfully analyzed and received. If someone is truly committed to being non-racist, the appropriate reaction to a charge of racism is “I don’t feel like what I did was racist. Can you help me understand why you feel that way?”, not accusing someone of using race to be manipulative or deceitful.

But, alas, in a world of White privilege where is the incentive to say “You’re right, that was racist of me”? or “I didn’t mean to be racially insensitive”? And for even those who pride themselves in being non-racist, where would a non-Black person be taught the difference? If racism doesn’t negatively impact you in a very obvious way, it’s quite a task to say, “hey, let me learn about this so I make sure that I’m not out here supporting an unfair system of advantage that benefits me.”

It’s an amazingly duplicitous thing, to flip racism around so that the person who is the victim now looks like the guilty party because of their observations of someone’s behavior. A Black woman who feels that she has been passed over for a raise because of her background may be told that she is ‘pulling the race card’ and that racism will never end so long as people like her “see race in everything.” But how can you not see something that is constantly there?

The race card concept implies that the true racial power in this country lies in the hands of minorities, and that as soon as we “cry racism,” we will then be allowed to get away with anything or to unjustly persecute innocent White people. This is so infrequently the case. We holler “race” because so often it IS about race. While racism should not instill in Black folks a sense of paranoia, we must be constantly diligent and aware of how we are being treated. I do not wish to be color-blind. I am glad that I am aware of the racial climate that I live in, so that I may arm myself accordingly for whatever may come my way. We will never end or even lessen racism so long as we are made to be afraid to challenge it. Thus, I understand that the “race card” that I carry is not some get-out-of-culpability trump card, but instead, a challenging reality that I have been dealt.

written by Jamilah Lemieux

July 06, 03:26 AM
I said this before but I'll say it again but there is something about this haircut that makes me want to show off. I really feel like taking this care free thing to another level. If I put no work into my hair why do the same for my clothes. I had already vowed to not wear any clothes this summer and get my day and night dress on. Dresses every day because its simply too much work to do to worry about clothes or hair. Those are really the last things that I need to think about anyway.

I took this photos a few weeks ago in new york in a night/night dress.










June 13, 04:51 AM
My first year at a Odunde was a blessed one I hope to be there next year and the next. Again because of our success I will be doing another give away but it will more grande and with a partnership. It will be a package deal of InMyImage big and bold earrings along with a feather earring set. I plan to hold it in the beginning of July.
I want to thank everyone who participated and re-blogged my give away it was effective.

The winner is Katelin of http://ivekissedthelips.tumblr.com If you can email me your mailing address at
makeithappen.accessories@gmail then I will gladly send you your earrings.

June 12, 01:04 AM
I am always searching high and low for ladies that I feel make the cut and I never wanted it to be a list of my personal friends and women I only know. But I realized those are the only folks that I can past judgement on. Because of the lack of authenticity and general personal style its a bit difficult to fish out the real from the fake. All you have to do is dress with the right components (thrift, name-brand, trendy) and your style is it and its a go. There doesn't have to be anything personal about your style as long as it falls into those categories then you're a style icon. Its almost impossible to decipher someone is who trendy and someone who is stylish. And its even more difficult to decipher the difference between someone who's been loyal to fashion and the pretenders. You really just have to know someone personally before you can make a real judgement.

But when I first created this tag I was interested in showing respect to the amazing women that I come across. Some I know personally and some not so personally but have gotten a chance to through a blog. The women that inspire me that make me think "damn she's fly"


I bring you Dara my sister friend that I met when I was 14 years old and working at my first job with summer youth. Since then we have always stayed in contact and eventually performing together on the elite Pink Diamonds Step Team. I have always been attracted to her drive and her ability to be so involved with every thing. Its an honor to be her friend because I just know what shes going to make of herself when the dust clears.
She has managed to dance, sing, and act her way through grade and high school. She has always been the caption or president of every team shes ever played for. And recently she has danced and traveled with an all black marching band at Howard University. It would take a few more posts to get in every one of her achievements but I don't want to forget to mention how she is a black belt and has been an honor student all her life.


I have always been one to boast about someone else's growth because its beautiful when you are apart of it and witness it before your very eyes. But make sure you look out for Dara because trust and believe that she will be on your screen preaching to our next generation and then some.

You can follow her on her Tumblr and on her Twitter
Isn't She Fly!
June 28, 03:09 PM
There are too many well made and creative movies going around (A.I, Avatar, Fire&Ice, The 10th Kingdom, Boomerang, Wise Girls, The Lion King, The Fifth Element, Inception, etc) for me to even have watch Legion but I will blame Netflix. I knew from the previews that it was a bad idea, although you shouldn't judge something before you experience it. That actually doesn't matter because I was in fact right about this one. I knew from the beginning it wasn't worth a view or even a critic but wow. I mean I didn't know movies could still be released if they were this bad. I remember reading a review from CultureCynic about how terrible it was. Now I read through it knowing before hand I wasn't going to see it myself. I just couldn't imagine a movie being as bad as how she describe. But really she was a little light on it. Terrible can not describe and I am not here to look for the words.

I would like to address the blatant stereotype and racism that Tyrese took part in. I have been hearing great reviews about his book and I have yet to read it. Before I make a statement about anyone I like to know a large piece about them; his book being an excellent way to see his side of life in general. But really your representation is just as good to use for any prejudgment. Its unfair but its realistic and how our brain works no matter how much we pretend like we are not bias. It is in our own favor to try our best to control and modify what we choose as independent representations. It is impossible to honor this because honestly we can't control everything that we are judge by. There are things we have NO control over. But so we won't work against ourselves it is extremely important to be picky with things that will shape our image ultimately.

The role he played was barely laughable but pretty much sad and I for one can't refer to his book as his bible because of the roles he excepts. I think if anything is worth doing its worth doing right. And as far as I'm concern Tyrese Gibson hit the nail on the head with this one. I want to believe he didn't read the script and he was blind sided by the role his character played. I want to believe this all but I can't. His role portrays everything I don't want for black male actors which are stereotypes that can actually be applied to real life. But its not about that, its about the cheap, uncreative, and the remaining of the characters that black men are stuck with. There would be no complaint on my side if variety was shown when it came to showcasing the different shapes, roles, and the amount of strength that black men possess. How family orientated and sharp REAL black MEN are, its unfortunate that the world doesn't know they do not come a dime a dozen. I meet and see them ALL the time.

I don't appreciate one species and race being water down into these few attributes that someone wants to highlight. Because black men are ONLY too sensitive and shy or overly aggressive and inconsiderate. If I was an alien and I had one American news station to connect with for resources. As far as I was concerned black men only wear baggy clothes and are never with their baby mothers. NEVER. I would be embarrassed if I was Tyrese to have except that role and played it "well". I didn't know those roles were still written I just had no idea. I would love to say something personally to all the directors, producers, and writers who support and put out those roles.
But then I would be "racist".
I would like to say that we have got to realize that racism is actually stronger than it was years ago. It has become more apparent to me that it is not getting better and it is only getting worst. Having a black president has only highlighted how racist politicians really are (not that anyone was fooled before he was in office). Barack Obama has made those closeted racist come out and say hello with more than enough justifications. So no we are not there yet whatever there is suppose to be; I presume equality was only the goal right?

Right!

Well I don't know about Tyrese or any other black man wearing a dress but I will not be catching that bone that is thrown my way. I will make my own production with MY movies so I will not have to settle to be the sassy black girl that snaps her fingers and rolls her neck. I will not try and join any team that only wants to glorify my bad attributes and shows no progress after hundreds of years. So please say "no" black people because there is no reason for us to settle when we have each other.

July 06, 03:29 AM
The last set of photos from BAM.







My dear mother
lol I love this photo
With fellow blogger AGrlCanMac

Daughter of a family friend, can't express how much I love her locks.
One of my favorite earrings that I had to rock myself once or twice.
July 06, 03:30 AM
The second day is always the most eventful and exciting my shoes sure helped the spirit. I finally pulled out my summer shoes that I brought awhile ago from Aldo. I have planned my three outfits for BAM like I do every year and I had a beautiful pair of wedges to go with one. So when I seen these shoes circulating on Tumblr I was convinced they were for me. It didn't matter how much they were I had to have them. I actually planned to wear these in the snow because they are so fly.

All I know is Aldo needs to sponsor me or something because the amount of people that stopped me for photos were ridiculous. I'm going to be knocking on their door one of these days. Although they are comfortable they are too high to wear all day, so with breaks in between I was good. They were perfect for the event and I can't wait to come up with different outfits. It was funny picking out the earrings to match because I have so many color combos I had plenty to match with. I will probably make a few to go based off inspiration.

Here are more photos from BAM and check back on the website for all the photos from the three days.





My sister before we were PD sisters my very supportive friend Dara

A loyal customer wearing my feather earrings

My writer friend Lee and her friend

One of my favorite colors to play with this pastel creamy pink is so much fun to work with.

Sister Abena wearing a custom In My Image earring (my mother) and my very own feather earring


In My Image earrings and earring boards to display lock adornments and ear spheres

June 01, 10:46 PM
All you have to do to win is take the link of this post and promote it on any social site of your choice. Then post that link in the comment section to show your promotion.
Give away starts tonight and ends June 13, Monday.

This is for anyone who never made it to BAM or any other shows.
You don't have to be a follower of this blog or my friend of any other site
(2.) Then post your promo link into the comment section for proof
(3.) It is your choice if you want to show pictures but you must explain the give away

I wanted to make it as simple as possible. Everyone is eligible to win.



June 09, 11:17 AM
BAM was such a success this weekend I am so excited at the outcome. I have so so many photos to edit and upload which will be available on Charmedfeathers in about a week. The feedback was exciting and flattering.
I came across Ahseik over her youtube channel who stopped me for my info at my booth on day 2.

You can see me all cheesy face at mark 5:30.


As always I felt welcomed and felt at home like I've been there and never left. And because it was such a nice turn out I will be holding a give away very soon for an earth tone earring necklace. You won't have to be a follower but you will have to promote the post on FB, twitter, etc and leave a comment with that link. It will be fly and I'm sure some lucky lady will be happy with it.


Day one wasn't one of my fly days. I had to get up at 4am to drive to NY and prepare for this big show. So looking cute was out of the question. I threw on this $10 dress and sandals along with my huge earrings to match. Although theres nothing simple about my earrings I was trying for comfort and simplicity.

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May 25, 02:45 AM
Something has been telling me to give Cee-lo Green a chance because I have neglected him after his hit single "Crazy" for no reason. But after seeing this video


and his recent single with Melanie Fiona I realized he's no one to sleep on. Heres three songs I've been bumping to that I wanted to share. Tyler, The Creator is not someone I would typically listen to and I'm not sure how I found this song but I like it.

I love the Bob Marley feel to this old John Legend and The Roots colabo.


May 27, 11:56 AM
I can't keep myself on one project because I am so excited for this years BAM festival. Its my most anticipated pre-summer event. This is my second year selling my own jewelry and I am much more prepared with a larger inventory. It so happen that I cooked up my best ideas after BAM (being before the summer every memorial weekend). I always had my good stuff during the summer and had to wait till the following year to show case my new creations. This year I am extremely excited to show off why I quit my 9-5.

Quitting was by far the best decision I have made this year. Not only was it draining, it was pointless, and had absolutely nothing to do with my career path. I was doing more working and less talking and we ALL know how much I love talking. I needed to be around people, interacting, and do what I do best. Sales. I would like to focus 100% on Make It Happen which seems to be possible after 2 years of struggling for a consistent income. I love that I can do something I love while making money AND growing as a person. Its depressing to think of all the months, hours, and days we waist at a job that does not show case everything we're about. Let alone allow half of what we can do to be done. I realized I'd rather struggle with a some what consistent wage and guaranteed contentment then be unhappy. The idea of not being able to express myself KILLS me, literally so I had to do. Now I understand those people who quit out of no where with no warning or previous preparation. Something clicks and it doesn't matter if we have to struggle for the next 5 years we refuse to settle and be that unhappy for little to nothing.

In my mind I have already set up a mind set that'll prepare me for the next few months. Like every thing I scheme on I would like them to be in effect so I kick them into action immediately. One thing I can't stand is someone who talks yet has nothing to back it up. So as much as I talk I need to have some sort of material to justify my words. Two summers ago I was focusing on my original creations; my headbands. I was more so excited with the new venture then anything. My mother was so proud because she as an artist has been waiting for all her children to find their own tunnels of creativity sooner or later. I finally found mine magically after moving to Philly and looking for my groove and like most things I do I would like to share with the world. I started with Buffalo Exchange in Center City (sigh) here I talk about my lost and gain.


Me and my mom talking business (I was more than likely not listening) lol kidding


The weirdest thing about the transaction is I am always big on people getting over on me, it just rarely happens. I have never been in the predicament but it still seemed so out of character of me to not stand up to that man or speak my piece. I know that was the first and will lead as a control on what to do when this happens again. I know I swore off consignment and wholesale but I was so vulnerable I really didn't know how to deal. I think the key mistake I made was not going over my value and worth with myself BEFORE I walked into the store and tried to sell them my items. I can't leave it up to a complete stranger to tell me what my product is worth. I am the original designer, with the original ideas, and the original receipts. I am the one who came out of pocket for materials, I am the one who dug deep to pull from my creative juices. I did the work. I should get the credit. That was the mistake I made when I didn't realize those things now I have a more clear outlook when dealing with a 2nd and 3rd party.
I only control half of what's going on I can't think about what they are going to do with my items. All I can control is the respect I have for my work and hopefully that will ultimately pass through the store owner and be projected when my items are displayed in their store. I have created my wholesale list and special packages to enable more control. I think I'm ready to go at this full time and participating in consignment is the best thing I can do. Not only will I be getting more involved on the market but I will be able to make money in my sleep (a goal I've had since last year). Its sad that it took me 2 years to get with the program but I wasn't ready and everything was about timing.
Since last month I have sold to 3 different locations (you can click for website and directions) the top being the most recent I have done business with.

Join me and my family this year at BAM for our newest bigger and bolder original accessories. We will be in Lot 3 space #6
Brooklyn, New York
Memorial Weekend


I am excited for my ventures and this upcoming summer. I am looking forward to sharing my work with more shops. So if you know of any boutiques that are looking for original preferably handmade jewelry.
You can email me at Rebekah@charmedfeathers.com

And Brooklyn I'm coming for you next!


May 01, 07:56 PM
Check out Make It Happen's New and Official website


May 01, 07:51 PM
Its been long over due but I've finally finished my website for Make It Happen. You guys have to be gentle with me its my first and I'm still adding a few perks here and there. So here is the main source for all the events, info, and photos.

Here I am in NY doing a little supply shopping preparing for BAM, memorial weekend. I'm still loving my cut and still feeling sexy.




April 14, 10:01 AM



I was introduced to Maimouna Youseef; beautiful songwriter,poet, and emcee while I was in DC. I have never heard and was so eager to after her husband and manager boasted about how amazing she is. When I did meet her I couldn't agree more. I did my homework and found out that she IS something to brag about. Back in 2007 she received a grammy nomination for the song "Don't Feel Right" with the roots. I learned this all after I listened to her EP and fell in love with her like she was my wife.

I loved the way they worked this sample because now I want so much more. She gives me so much life and I am patiently waiting for her album in full. Black Magic Woman is now on my phone.

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Later I would like to talk much deeper about my discovery and interest in “fashion design”. Specifically because I made it clear through the years how much I despise the fashion world and curl at sewing machines. I have figured it out but I am still walking through this journey so I’m not quit done yet. I would like to express how good it feels to come to a decision. As indecisive as I may not want to admit,it took me awhile to figure out exactly what I wanted to go to school for.  I knew what I loved and I had too many hobbies to count. I couldn’t figure out how to interchange them all in one shot. I didn’t know where to start because all my hobbies had a dominant filed to it that could carry its own weight.

It was when I began making accessories that it became clear to me that I have a special way of thinking. Not only do I need to challenge this but I need to find the people who will allow this to happen. Damn how in the hell am I going to do that. I have the puzzle pieces I just can’t figure out the bigger picture. Which was how can I transfer all my wonderful goals and ideas into a successful career.

To make things simple I always disregarded money (for the most part). It never occurred to me that I would have a problem making money. There are some people who are destined to win and luckily for me I have parents who taught this to me.  I would only add another life time of puzzles if I tried to integrate the things that excite me-with money. Sometimes there is no way to mesh the two.

In the event that I came to an epiphany that I had to be my own boss. Instantly I knew I needed to go to school for art and business. There are so many crazy things that go on in my head I would love to bring them out within this lifetime. Its beautiful to discover a fracture of your life that’s been waiting to be brought to your attention. This small piece answers so many questions which ultimately opens doors and closes a few to some unsolved mysteries. That is what I am going through right now and its wonderful. It feels good to be back in school and I varied size puzzle pieces to lighten my load. I have found the missing pieces in my closet and I’m going to hold onto them tightly.

Last month I wrote breifly about my new found “loneliness” of living on my own. Which is what many would refer to me being alone day in and day out with no computer,television, or company. I of course don’t limit loneliness to those few fators. I am alone but not exactly lonely. It is in fact one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. I have choices and the option to surround myself with people I enjoy. I am not in the company of most by default. I have the opportunity to breath and think within my own space, without the disruption of anothers presence. I was beginning to think I was anti-social and in denial. I was so easily annoyed with my family member’s presence and I was getting sick to my stomach of children running around.

But being alone has given me a clear persepctive on what I really needed. The idea of no one around to slice through my thought process before I even get a chance to complete one; is just…There are no words to describe how amazing I feel to be alone. I have a big family that I can not escape if I tried, they will always love and care for me through thick and thin. I have recognized that as a beautiful quality that I should appreciate. Its just I need my space. I have always made a point to seperate myself to my sanctuary; which was whatever space that I called my own at the time. I tried to do what I could to collect myself before I got short with the next person. But it never happened, I never got the time to myself to get a breather. It was family time all the time.

Luckily before I did explode I finally have that time and space I wanted. It gives me the opportunity to humble myself and think before I act. Its a blessing to have a family to call your own I’m aware of this. But Im glad I’m able to remove myself from whatever circumstance I can’t control when it comes to family. I now understand that I need to take control of my own life before I try to heed on the burdens of others.

My (effective) 28 ways of staying creative

1. Eat candy bars 2. Sort through a pile of old photos 3. Organize your recent pile of paperwork 4. Make a page in your scrapbook 5. Catch up with an old friend 6. Search through a friends FB photos (I have found this to be less creepy but more inspiring) 7. Look at your own FB photos 8. Make a video about your day/weekend 9. Pull out your glue and do an art project 10. Dye/rinse your hair 11. Change your hairstyle/get a haircut 12. Play dress up 13. Tie dye an old pair of jeans 14. Relax and organize your thoughts 15. Make a pair of earrings for yourself 16. Write in your diary 17. Read an old children’s book 18. Visit a historical monument 19. Pull out your thread and needle and make a shirt or skirt (this will probably take all day but are for people like me who hate sewing machines) 20. Set you clothes out for the next week 21. Sell something on craigslist or eBay 22. Have a yard sale 23. Have a photo shoot in your kitchen 24. Paint a room a vibrant color 25. Play in a children’s park 26. Network at a festival or trunk show 27. Practice using photoshop 28. Write a short story

This list was generated after reading “”33 ways to stay creative”. I decided I wanted to make a list based off of my realistic comings and goings. These are things that I’m most likely going to do. I read over them and really thought I should share. I know there is someone out there who, like me, is suffering from “in home syndrome” and finds time to never leave the house. It happens at different times of our lives. I am in the middle of a move so I am doing a lot of waiting. It’s sickening how much time we waist inside doing the same ole. During this its like time is dragging along and we are waiting for something to happen. While our mind is in a scramble we should take advantage and get creative. Because you never know it might actually get you off the computer and out of the house.

Its interesting to watch yourself transform and grow through a relationship. It can also be comical to be quoted on constantly. I have had to go back on my words and actions so many times to count, because of my real progression in opinions and outlooks. To compare what I thought and felt in the beginning of my relationship to now is almost laughable. But much more interesting as I stated to be able to take note of my growth through my relationship.

I was always one to read magazines and plenty online articles. I was obsessed with being a “good girlfriend” and perfect lover. I was all about preparing myself and being ahead of the game. Little did I know that my fathers teachings and my own vigorous research was no preparation for what I actual undertook for 4 years.

I became more familiar with the Nigerian culture after I fell madly in love with my partner Shola. It never dawned across me until after I realized I couldn’t live without this person that I couldn’t possibly love this person without loving every thing that had to do with them. Including their family and background. In the beginning it was more of a I-need-to-get-by and generally I wasn’t yet interested in where he came from. But what happens when you grow with someone you are forced to intertwine who they really are; their culture especially. Of course you are not obliged to take on anyone’s lifestyle especially when its by force. But what I grew to learn is that when you REALLY love someone you want to be apart of everything that has to do with them. Ultimately it will bring you closer and extend your knowledge of what love really is. I on the other hand have the honor of learning  a whole language with out classes or having to travel to another country. That in itself is a blessing (I realized much later on).

Here I am extremely welcoming and open to another’s life because I am that in-tuned with them. Its beautiful. I do have to thank my dad for being there and Cosmo for preparing me for the insignificant  things that I would have learned on my own anyway. I must say there is nothing like actually going through it and not reading how to go through it. Its amazing and something I would not trade in for the world.

I’m excited to be able to deliver this news because its a secret I’ve kept in. Cosmetic companys won’t pitch it to you because that’s the key to your business. But I discovered it a lonnnng time ago. I also picked it up as a young girl who honors her mother and growing (unfortunately) to be just like her. It’s not the biggest revelation but its one that will probably help MOST females who fell in love with make-up.

My mother is turning 57 in December and her skin I must say is flawless. Although she could probably get her eyebrows waxed to help her out. Her skin alone has always been close to perfect. Not to mention the jump start she has being a member of the melanin family. She is aging gracefully so its kind of unfair.

But one of the biggest secrets we’ve kept as the Davis family that keeps our skin glowing…Is the amount of make-up we use. The percentage starts at 0-30%. In terms of the basics (eye liner,mascara) we used little to no foundation/concealer. That will and is the key to keeping your skin fresh. There is not one moisturize or face primer in the world that can prevent the inevitable damage that gunk will cause. Nothing. The sooner you become comfortable with your heat bumps,random scars, natural skin tone ,etc. You will make your life easier. We are human beings, we are not suppose to look like porcelain dolls in the morning. If you feel like you have bad skin I can guarantee it that applying a flew layers will not make it any better.

So please ladies fall in love with natural beauty again we can’t always be “camera ready”.

Heres the thing when I was growing up I was always the “skinny” one, ranging around a size 0 when my peers were on their way to 3’s and 4’s. Although now I know this was from sexual activity and that’s OK. But what I didn’t realize is that I was normal size. I wasn’t over weight or under I was where I was suppose to be. It didn’t help that everyone I hung around was 2-3 years older than me. So although I was ahead of my maturity I was not “ahead” in size. And according to them (which put a dent in my self-esteem for awhile) there was something wrong with my growing process. 

Besides the fact that I was a very athletic little girl. If I wasn’t climbing trees, I was racing neighbors, or playing double dutch (I was a pro all through jhs). As far as the adults concern was I was right on track and thankfully not obese. But still on my side of town it was always a factor to be thick and voluptuous. The point that my mother was a well endowed young women, still is till this day, might I add a well endowed grown women. With eight kids. It was always expected of us (her 5 daughters) to carry out her (strong) genes and be just as thick if not thicker. 

I remember being teased for being a size 5 and I kid you not that I brag till this day about fitting a 10 because of those jokes. I just find it interesting to come across women who pride themselves in being a size 4 and 6. Now taking a look at my photo I look no bigger than a 5 and weighing between 125-135 pounds. I consider myself small. I am small. But in all honesty I am wayyy too thick for a run way and that is where my confusion begins. OK I am clearly not the tallest (5’4 holla back) but with some 6 inches I can pose as a super model. 

I just think there is something extremely wrong with that. Is weight social,cultural  or career based. What happen to judging an individual on a circumstantial rate? I’m curious to know how your weight is judged? Do you believe women of a certain size get a special hall pass or if some receive a detention pass with no reason at all? Who defines thick? Who defines skinny? 

Remember at some point in time we were all judged on our size so be nice.

Its was a pleasure to be able to participate in a store that I’ve grown up in buying books. Nicholas Variety store on 560 Fulton st Brooklyn, NY across from McDonalds has been a favorite of mine since I was little. I loved sneaking in there to buy $3 books and leave during closing hours.I just loved the whole vibe and flavor of the store. So you can image how it feels to be apart of their establishment. 

Sunday was a fundraiser fashion show that I took place in as a designer. It is my second fashion show with the store and definitely not the last. What I love most is their support for their community and their love for their own. I believe if they made it to the top they would bring everyone with them. Their loyalty and commitment will allow me to reciprocate my time. They are always welcoming and are very open to ideas. I am constantly seeing an event going on in their store and its amazing how they’ve been doing it for so long. 

In the show was a designer who specializes in sportswear, her aesthetic really blew me away. I was so impressed with her eye I haven’t seen her kind of style in a long time. Here you can scan through her portfolio and get a feel of what I’m saying. The way she manipulates shapes and colors are amazing, she really knows how to execute her vision. From seeing her clothes in person to looking through her portfolio her sketches actually match her results. 

It was another day full of networking and I can’t wait to officially be home so I can have nights like these fill in my weekends.

I’d like to consider myself a quiet bulldog. As much as I love to debate and express my opinions. I think I know when to speak and when not to (to strangers). In my inner circle not so much. I’m aware of my tendency to cross a line just to get my point across. Not something to brag about but a habit I’m glad I’m aware of. I am known for speaking continuously, something I am trying to work on. But really its not my fault because I’ve grown up in such a religious and spiritual home. I feel as if my opinion was invalid all of my life. As much as we discussed and debated in my home I still remember keeping my words under wraps. It was imperative to voice out what we felt but at the same time it didn’t mean what was felt was first or second priority. 

Besides my home background I am still who am. I was born with the gift of gab and I will take it how I can. It is a gift from God and its up to us to take advantage of our god given talents. They are our ticket to success and instant leave on a bad situation. I’ve been looking for different ways to control my mouth, something I don’t know is possible. 

What I do realize is if I would like to make it past 35 then I should probably be more shut mouth. I can get somewhere with this blogging and maybe I can go as far as getting paid for it. Once I do become “big” I need to play smart. I have to find a way to boldly state my opinion (as I do) while downsizing its intensity. For my sake if I would like to  continue as an author,designer, and activist for young girls. I need to be smart about what I’m saying when.where, and how.

My life is officially complete because I have been able to obtain a few wrap dresses. WHY didn’t anyone tell me about the convenience of such a dress? I’ve been vending and attending street festivals all my life. I remember being dragged on the train and the bus with my other siblings to these shows. I hated them they felt like such a waist of time (because I was being forced to work). Since there was so many of us I never got a chance to buy what I wanted. I was lucky if I got a fruit salad or a plate of food. So for awhile I had to pass up on all the wonderful treasures you get from all these fairs. The expensive handmade but well worthy items. I did buy my first leather belt and bag a few years ago from a family friend. If you are a Brooklyn native and frequent these fairs you should know of George; very pleasant and family oriented. He makes the hell out of leather goods. It saddens me to just now jump on the band wagon because I wasn’t able to afford most of the items I was raised around. I lived at these fairs and have accommodated them to my life ( and not because its apart of my parents lifestyle). It pleases me to now be able to buy whatever I want because I have my own table of products to sell.
It’s a blessing also that I am able to apply my vending skills to real life. I can use and apply them for my own small businessIt was always one of those family activities that I dreaded doing because I didn’t know the value. Now I can really appreciate the customer service skills that I’ve learned and how to be business oriented. Being able to change a 10X10 space and down size to 8X10. I can use those skills to design a store once I decide to open one. There are a lot factors that play into it and I’m happy I have them to use to my advantage.
This was the third day at the International Festival in Brooklyn. It was fairly slow and rainy. But I was lucky enough to be as fly as I wanted to be in my wrap dress.

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I wish there was a way of raising my children in America and being able to modify the things they learn from living in this country. Obviously that is suppose to be up to me; what I allow them to watch, where I allow them to go, and who they hang with. But really there doesn’t seem to be a way to get around how messed up this country is. The only solution is to raise your children some place else or lock them inside. OR you can move far away. Compared to others we have it good and are living it up, I do know this. But there is something about the propaganda that scares the living daylights out of me and has me worried for my future children. What do we have to look forward to in the future because it only looks like things are getting worst. The way everything is being shaped it makes me believe that I am not meant to live on planet earth all together. It is becoming harder and harder to live in this country and not only as a black women but as a human being. I feel like I am being set up for failure and not success. I feel like I am being pushed out by my own government. I don’t feel exactly safe and secure in my own home. The news and newspapers address issues like I should be scared for my life. I can not stand how the media portrays life itself and acts as an entertainment slot than the informational and resourceful tool that it’s suppose to be. 

As I’m getting older I am learning about using current events to my advantage to make a living. For example I have cut my hair for 2 major reasons 1: I have wanted to cut my hair off since I was 14 AND two:natural hair is a big thing and will help me excel my small business. I have always considered myself a natural because I never did wear weave, fake nails, and make-up. It has always been a thing for me to not wear perfume and stick with my natural scent, stay true to my style, and be me no matter what. I had promoted and boasted about being natural since I can remember so when I cut my  hair I felt regular. My decision to do it so soon was because I needed/wanted to take advantage of the ever revolution and trend of black women rocking their natural hair textures. It was something I would have never done a few years ago because of the fear of me being viewed as a copy. My mother always taught me to try and never care what people think because even if they told you, you still won’t know exactly what they are thinking. 

But from my day to day living I don’t see how my future seeds will make a living. Of-course if they are a part of my family tree they will probably be successful artists or anything of a powerful activists or bulldog. There are no failures in my family so I don’t expect them to fail at what they strive to do. But my concerns are how hard it will be for them to make a living in this country as human beings. I am not confident in our amendments. I am not confident that our newer laws will hold my sons and daughters down when they decide to get ahead in life. I feel a bad turn coming and a WWW V as a follow-up. Even if after I have made my hit in life and settled with my babies (6-8) and a war has never been declared. I will know based my children’s hardships if life is any easier for them than it was for my parents and their parents. 

I have always loved traveling since I was a little girl, it was always the most exciting for me to get lost on my way to Far Rockaway, Queens. It was an adventure when my day camp would walk from 5th street (lower east side) to central park for picnics. Be it by train, cab, mega bus, or plane (not quit yet). I love to travel. A few weekends ago I took a trip to DC/Baltimore and was I so surprised at the blatant segregation. To my dismay I couldn’t really grasp “the chocolate city” being uninformed in terms of diversity. Blacks use to hold 70% of DC’s population and has dropped to 50% since the 80s. What is changing beside the cost of living? If I’ve always known DC for its overwhelming flood of prideful individuals (like myself) what exactly is keeping the city from merging together as one. I felt like an alien as if my color wasn’t seen or welcomed. To throw out a few variables to the weird stares I don’t think my outfit qualified me for evil looks. I think I was dressed at the excepted level of an outsider; a simple skirt and sandals . I wasn’t trying too hard to tone anything down but I figured I was in chocolate city so whatever I did the residents were use to by now. I am still trying to come up with reasonable reasons for anyone to have looked at me funny. This is my second or third trip to DC and each visit I have came up with a different review.
I have been to a community event where I’ve gotten a taste of family and the love that DC has to offer. I thought I loved DC as a whole but I could only reside in a particular areas. Not to say that DC is the only majority black city with segregation. But again I was still surprised at how blatant it was. I was floating around the white house so I will admit that I did expect more, much more. We are TOO far down in our society to still have this much segregation anywhere. And although propaganda is still a serious practice, does having a black president mean anything? There things that are suppose to shift ones mind eventually even after years of brainwashing. Why do I have to walk down a street and still feel like I don’t belong? There is something very wrong with the idea of the only brown people (employees) in a restaurant not wanting to recognize my face and explore what we have in common. That should an automatic.
I would only visit Baltimore because of the sheer stillness and relaxation it brings. I would love to live in DC for a year or two to go into my past experiences and analyze them.

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My lovely Aldo shoes has brought me more attention then I imagined. I wish there was a way to set up some partnership with Aldo. If they knew or witnessed all the women and many men who stopped in their tracks for my shoes. I think they would appreciate the few customers that I brought them and how lovely I displayed their new product. I didn’t realize these were sort of underground because so many people had no idea Aldo had released these wonderful designs, more were extremely surprised. 

I never got a chance to try them on in stores because if I did I would have realized how high they were. I had to put up a little fight to get them, from searching high and low to traveling from state to state. I ordered them from a store in Baltimore and they were shipped to me. These are my only exceptions in terms of comfortability. I am indeed a true heel lover but these bad boys aren’t the most comfy. I don’t play that (fashion is pain BS) wearing heels that hurt your feet will only screw you over in the long run. I choose comfort over everything. But like I said I have to have that one pair that isn’t the most comfortable but makes up in design and aesthetic. I like to look at them as an investment because of the amount of customers they have brought to my table and space. I also love that I have the perfect earrings to match that are just as loud and funky. I have made a few earrings inspired by my shoes and I can’t wait to sit down and see what I cook up with these beauties. 

I’m trying to add as many photos as I can to the website to show off how well my feather earrings go with all of odd pieces. I have an earring to match that dress of yours that you had for years but doesn’t go with anything. And you know that one pair of red shoes you have, well I have a fire red pair of earrings to match those also. There are times we stop ourselves from buying the most amazing thing because we have nothing to match. But I can bet your wardrobe that I have a flood of earrings to go with those things. Click on the photos to view my website and all of the earrings that go with that “ugly” dress. Also go here for more photos from this event. 

These shoes feel like a match made in heaven and I’m so happy I brought them.


I’m still searching high and low for a good tablet while still waiting for the prices to lower I have played with a few and no where are they worth $700, none of them. They are not mini laptops they are more like over sized cell phones with out the call log. Ima need Apple to calm down on their over priced I-Pads that can barely access every website without adobe flash. I have been over Apple and their untrustworthy attitudes toward their customers. They make me feel as if I stole from them a few years ago and I have to rebuild my credibility with them. I like Apple because I am use to them and their products appease to me. But they are killing me with their customer service. 

With a new trusty tablet I can do more blogging and work on the go. My desktop is not cutting it. I need to be able to access my website and edit on the go, with something very light and small. I don’t need anything actually because I have a natural drive. I’m doing things I couldn’t imagine doing in such a short time. But convenience would help me get these things done in a timely manner.

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Please don’t mind my shoes they weren’t intended for this outfit. I left my black pumps somewhere in NY so I had to settle with my day shoes. I was currently at a play (the one woman show) with my dear sister. I was suppose to end up out with my sister girl Quincy but no one over here was spending $40 for a ticket. That is a negative. I’m too accustom to getting in for free to start paying at that price now.

I knew there was no way I was wearing this dress again so why not take some photos. I never liked things too tight or short, I feel ridiculous pulling down my dress. Why wear it if it can’t fit. I can’t stand the unnecessary and misleading attention. An old woman passed me a pamphlet that night my dressed must’ve implied that I needed Jesus. Right. OK, because my father isn’t a preacher and this dress shows how much respect I don’t have for myself. Alright I can’t contest to that, if it walks like a duck then its probably a duck. But come on that’s being so judgmental to assume that I need someone or I’m missing something because I’m wearing a short black dress. I personally don’t wear short often because one; I dont need to I can wear a garbage bag and get the same amount of attention. Two; I can’t stand the attention I do get its so uncalled for, and three; short dresses rise on me and thats not cute. I’d rather rock out with a long tight dress or jeans and show my neck and shoulders. That right there to me is much sexier but since I don’t discriminate I need to explore once or twice. 

There is something about my cut that makes me want to be naked. I have never felt more sexy in my life. Not that I had much hair before to hide behind but now I really can’t go any where. To be confident enough makes me feel more attractive. Which explains my sudden urge to wear my little black dress and show off more skin then usual. I’m just scared for this summer because I’m pulling it all out. 

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