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  • March 19, 08:26 PM

    electricollection:

    OMG YESSSS

  • March 19, 07:20 PM
  • March 19, 06:02 PM

    Are note counts messed up on your dashboard too?

  • March 19, 05:44 PM

    jermainia:

    “GAME RECOGNIZE GAME!!! AND YOU LOOKIN’ KINDA UNFAMILIAR RIGHT NOW!!!”

  • March 19, 05:43 PM
  • March 19, 01:18 PM

    No really, bitch, I LOVE YOU.

    There’s this girl in my life, this girl with a love of t-shirts that rivals my own, that will cry over anything and everything lovely and sweet, that laughs with all the zest of a child, and will…

  • March 19, 11:00 AM

    sandinmymouth | daysrunaway:

    I have no fucks to give
    This movie will always be
    Awesome 

  • March 19, 11:00 AM
  • March 19, 10:56 AM

    The TV Theme Medley (via Freddie25)

    This guy (both are the same person) plays and sings a medley of many of our favorite TV shows. I won’t tell you which ones, since that’d almost be like spoiling it, since you never know what’s coming next.

  • March 18, 01:39 PM

    caitiesailor | emilyeileenhorton | caitiesailor | emilyeileenhorton | caitiesailor:

     This is a french bulldog! Im buying one in the summer when I move out of my apartment :). Veryyy pricey tho :(

    i know! i was trying to convince ricky on letting me get a french bulldog, pug, pig, or a wombat :3

    I convinced my parents to let me get a frenchie when I move into their house here in MI. I just need 1,000-1,500 dollars :D.  My boyfriend has 3 pugs. Theyre the cuuuuutest.

    i had two great danes, some of the best dogs to own, and i always told myself i would never own a small dog if it wasn’t a weenie, but seeing pics like this make my heart flutter<3 there’s this pet shop down here that has spider monkeys and stuff, i’m sure it’s all black market, but they said [and i quote] “Any animal you want, we can get it. Just let us know” that’s where the wombat came to mind :3 buuuut, they said they would sell us the frenchie for only 500, they just have to be a month older. i was like :O!

     What noooo way!!! Any animal?! Wth! haha, The cheapest frenchie Ive been able to find is 800. But most people who sell them around here are show dog breeders who jack up the prices :( Wahhhhh

    (Sorry everybody about reblogging this conversation, but I needed to:)

    That petstore you guys are talking about? Those people running it are monsters. You will never get a decent animal for there, you will never find a decent French Bulldog for under $1500 bucks - breeder or no. They are expensive because it takes a lot of money to breed and whelp them - most dogs are unable to mate naturally so they must be artificially inseminated, and most cannot deliver vaginally, so they have to have c-sections. The prices aren’t jacked up, they are legitimate and necessary, based on the price of production, quality care, and on supply & demand. Now that Frenchies are becoming fad dogs, cheap, bad specimens of the breed are being spread around, making it harder to spot a good breeder from a bad - but regardless - never, never, ever, ever buy a dog from a pet store.

    Buying any animal from a pet store is encouraging these people, and their brokers and suppliers to abuse and murder innocent animals and overpopulate our shelters with abandoned animals, all in the name of easy money. The breeding animals are kept in awful conditions, not taken care of and most of them time beaten and debarked, underfed and overwhelped. The puppies they produce are not of sound health, their temperments are unpredictable, and since the very healthiest Frenchie is already highly prone to many medical conditions, you’re only setting yourself up for future heartbreak. If you’re unable to afford a Frenchie, or any other type of animal, save up until you can or check with the multitudes of breed-specific rescues there are. You can adopt for a low fee, or be a foster parent for free. Just…don’t buy them from pet stores. Please.

    For more information:

    http://www.frenchbulldog.org/2008/05/01/buying-pet-shop-puppies/

    http://www.hua.org/about-puppy-mills.html

    http://www.prisonersofgreed.org/

    http://www.caps-web.org/

  • March 17, 01:22 PM
  • March 17, 01:17 PM

    fuckyeahjohnmayer:

    John Mayer Serenades Birthday Girl on Vimeo

    At the 03.13.10 show, John made a fan who had a sign asking for a kiss really happy on her 16th birthday.

    This is from the concert Monday night. This is the part that made me ask Joey after the show “Do you see how awesome he is? Do you see why I was upset?” He seems like such a great guy. He just needs to work on that brain:mouth filter thing, if he’s going to keep talking but not wanting people to think he’s an asshole.

    And you can click through to see all the videos I’ve uploaded from the show thus far. I have the entire show (Joey recorded it for me), cut into clips for each song, and they’ll be uploading all flippin’ day I think.

  • March 17, 12:07 PM

    Have you tried Chat Roulette?

    Did you get lots of peen in your face? I haven’t tried it, I guess I’m not really interested. Maybe one night I’ll put on my Misfits ski mask and try to freak people out in the dark. It kind of glows.

  • March 17, 11:47 AM

    Chat Roulette Funny Piano Improv #1 (via PianoChatImprov)

    I have watched this maybe 100 times and it’s still just as funny as it was the first time.

  • March 16, 04:44 PM

    Isn’t he just the cutest thing, with his little splotches and crooked spines?

  • March 15, 12:27 PM

    Tonight is John Mayer. Today, I’m not really excited. I’m looking forward to seeing him live, but the OMGJOHNMAYERIN3MONTHS! that I felt when I bought the tickets has pretty much dissipated. Nevertheless, I’m sure it’ll be a good show and that’s all that matters. I’m going to take pictures and video and have a good time.

    I hope he plays Something’s Missing, although I doubt he will. I love that song! Maybe some of those new untitled tracks too.

  • March 15, 09:12 AM

    u know u can like buy a hedgehog for like 57 bucks right?

    LIES! LIAR!!

    Really? I wonder if it would set my daughter’s allergies off. Hmm…

  • March 15, 09:10 AM

    Bruce Springsteen by Lynn Goldsmith, 1978.

    (via kittykittybangbang)

  • March 15, 01:41 AM

    Ebonics, and other things.

    Yesterday, I started to comment on my friend Cecily’s post but it ended up being a post in and of itself, so I figured it’d be best to make a post of it here.* She wrote about conversations she…

  • March 14, 10:02 PM

    (via ache)

  • March 14, 08:48 PM

    I just made a face so disgusted at my 4 year old that it hurt her feelings.

    I was doing my homework and she yells “look mommy! it’s your favorite show!” I look up and she’s pointing at a Twilight commercial. I’m sure I looked like I was smelling rancid milk when I said “NO IT’S NOT!” Her face fell so low, and she said “oh” really quietly. Totally took the wind out of little her sails.

    I apologized. Must’ve been a hell of an ugly face I made. (She’s sensitive though.)

  • March 14, 06:58 PM
  • March 14, 02:03 PM

    moviesinframes:

    Hunger, 2008 (dir. Steve McQueen)

    By maromi

    Brilliant.  Fassbender is great in this movie.

  • March 14, 01:46 PM
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  • March 14, 11:32 AM

    thedailywhat:

    New Music Video! The Lonely Island (feat. Julian Casablancas) - “Boombox”

    The latest Incredibad hit to get the SNL Digital Short treatment. Remember: Only you can prevent reckless boomboxing.

    [thelonelyisland.]

    What the hell?! The song is longer than this! Dammit, I needed the VIDEO to be longer too! (I’m half happy/half angry)

  • March 14, 11:30 AM

    The Stories of My Life: Just a Thought

    I’m not questioning “God”

    Or his intentions

    I’m just questioning

    My faith

    I never believed in a “holy” anything

    Why should I?

    There’s disaster, war and famine

    Millions of people pray

    For a better day

    I’m not questioning “God”

    But if he’s supposed to listen

    Why are millions of prayers…

    I thought this was pretty brilliant.

  • March 13, 06:52 PM
  • March 13, 05:16 PM

    Finally got to drink my damn soda.

  • March 13, 04:08 PM

    sincewhendoessheblog:

    I still rock the hk from time to time.

    Laura gives me the most SERIOUS hair envy I’ve ever experienced in my life. Like, I want to scalp her and make a wig type hair envy. Damn her.

  • March 13, 03:47 PM

    I bought a soda. I was about to drink some and then I dropped it. Damn. I waited 1/2 an hour. Was about to drink some. Dropped it again.

    I quit.

  • March 13, 03:44 PM

    What?!

    • [guy falls down on TV]
    • [Goobie and I laugh, Bella doesn't]
    • Me: What, you didn't think that was funny?
    • Bella: It was violent.
    • Me: When did violence stop being funny?
    • Bella: When I grew up.
    • Me: WHAT?!
    • Bella: [blank stare]
  • March 13, 03:00 PM

    Superstars will always win. Yes, my feet are huge.

  • March 13, 12:09 PM
  • March 13, 12:08 PM

    Doesn’t he have just the prettiest smile?

  • March 13, 09:52 AM

    Blearggghhhhhh. It's all humid and disgusting out, but it's cold too. How does that work?!

    María | Blissed
    Sent from my iPhone

    Posted via email from María Young’s posterous | Comment »

  • March 12, 08:26 PM

    This Way | Dilated Peoples ft. Kanye West

    (via nathanieljames)

  • March 12, 08:12 PM

    Hey,

    I saw a while back that Joaquin has fixed himself up and everything now. Did we ever find out why he went all crazy for those few months?

  • March 12, 08:02 PM

    While I can’t deny the artistry, I don’t think I could ever eat a cake shaped like a raw fish. Just…not appealing to me.

  • March 12, 07:54 PM

    grapedrinkseventy | v3ga5 | lickystickypickyme:

    A fly taking a shower.

    At first glance I thought someone had bejeweled him. For his sake, I am very glad that I was wrong.

  • March 12, 07:50 PM

    (via thedaintysquid)

    Oh, that’s paper! Cool. I thought it was a like…whatever you’d call an image that was made in photoshop. Mind is blanking right now.

  • March 12, 07:45 PM

    Dear Easily-Offended Followers,

    abakkus:

    If you don’t like what I post, please take the high road, and hit unfollow, rather than sending me hateful bullshit & reblogging with nasty things.

    Grow Up, please,
    Abakkus

    And to those of you who can laugh, and generally take a joke, I love you guys.

    DONE.

  • March 12, 07:37 PM

    abakkus | fuckyeahladygaga:

    I just had to.

    Submitted by mynamekyle

    Oh, hahaha! I get it! Bigotry is fucking funny!

    Wait…

  • March 12, 07:34 PM

    Lost Boyz - Renee 

    A ghetto love is the law that we live by
    Day by day I wonder why my shorty had to die
    I reminisce over my ghetto princess everyday
    Give it up for my shorty

    (via brain-food)

  • March 12, 06:59 PM
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  • March 12, 01:48 PM

    I love me a man that loves his dog.

  • March 12, 12:33 PM

    Formspring a phishing site?

    soul-arcade:

    This article by the associated press says that formspring.me was made to steal a person’s private data. It would then be released on April 1st. Happy April Fools Day. 

    If this is true, WOW. 

    I always felt that there was something weird about formspring so I never started one. Good call. 

    This is so wrong BUT SO AWESOME! Everyone that said something anonymous would suddenly have their bullshit attributed to them!!! HAHAHAHAHA!! Oh, the inability to hide behind their keyboard would be amazing and wonderful.

    Still though, this is very wrong. :/

    EDIT: This is fake. But still would have been 80% wrong and 20% awesome, no?

  • March 12, 11:33 AM

    nikon d300 or nikon d90 ? which do you prefer ? which one is better ? & why ?

    I’ve never used either, so I have no idea. Well, I tried out the 90 in Best Buy once and it was nice, I liked the feel of it and the photos it took in the low light were good, but other than that, I can’t help you. The quality of your lenses with cameras at that level is more important though, I think.

  • March 12, 01:02 AM

    Vlog: WARNING! My boyfriend makes me giggly!

    Notes:

    • I say “um” a lot. I know. Sorry. I also have an issue keeping my mouth still when I’m not talking. Sorry about that as well.
    • Chicago was his idea, I swear.
    • He’s…

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  • This Way | Dilated Peoples ft. Kanye West (via nathanieljames)
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  • Lost Boyz - Renee A ghetto love is the law that we live byDay by day I wonder why my shorty had to dieI reminisce over my ghetto princess everydayGive it up for my shorty (via brain-food)
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  • A Tribe Called Quest - Electric Relaxation (via asynthetichappiness)
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  • Timbland feat. Justin Timberlake - Carry Out Now is it full of myself to want you full of me? (via goldmindgutted)
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  • Phoenix - Long Distance Call (via nathanieljames)
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  • Less Than Jake ft. Kel Mitchell - We’re All Dudes I’M A DUDEHE’S A DUDESHE’S A DUDEWE’RE ALL DUDES HEY (via iammattjordan | recreant1997 | carpios | beforetoday | ghostwaters)
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  • Train - Hey, Soul Sister I don’t like Train, and I hardly ever like this kind of music, but I love this song c: (via itwasreallyyou)
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  • Outkast - SpottieOttieDopaliscious Damn, damn, damn… (via nathanieljames)
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  • Aaliyah - Back and Forth (via nathanieljames)
    323 plays
  • Nine Inch Nails - Closer Is it weird that no other song gets my libido going like this one does? (via bringtheruckuss | lamebot | kari-shma)
    2407 plays
  • Wild Horses — The Rolling Stones couldn’t drag me away. (via palahniukandchocolate | presidents)
    603 plays
  • The Gap Band - Outstanding one of my favorites! (via brain-food)
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  • Death Cab For Cutie - The New Year (via trevania | trucs-a-faire)
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  • Survivor - Eye of The Tiger
    93 plays
  • Kansas - Carry On Wayward Son
    92 plays
  • Donny Hathaway - This Christmas This is my absolute, number one, most favorite Christmas song.
    196 plays
  • Aaliyah - Back and Forth Who is the L-I-Y-A-H? (via nathanieljames)
    323 plays
  • Manfred Mann’s Earth Band - Blinded By The Light I LOVE this song. Even more so than the original, and I love The Boss. (via tattoosandcupcakes | constantflux)
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  • The Roots ft. D’Angelo - The ‘Notic (via nathanieljames)
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  • Lady Gaga/Nirvana - Smells Like Teen Spirit/Pokerface Mashup Kurt is rolling over in his grave at this blasphemy, but it’s so awesome. (via tattoosandcupcakes | tasteslikecupcakes | natalieism | fuckyeahladygaga)
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  • Sade - Soldier of Love My girl’s still got it. Damn. (via allthingsalishan | thekingdomblog)
    264 plays
  • John Mayer - Edge of Desire (Raw) Ok. I’m listening to John, which always makes me feel better, and I’m STILL pissed off. You guysssss, is it ever going to stop?! It’s scaring me.
    216 plays
  • Sam Cooke - Cupid Live At The Harlem Square Club, 1963 (via thecount)
    126 plays
  • Trey Songz f/Usher & Keri Hilson - (Re)Invented Sex Download. (via cherchezlaval | jfkennedy)
    1328 plays
  • Marky Mark & The Funky Bunch - Good Vibrations Making you feel the rhythm is my occupation So feel the vibration (via iammattjordan)
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  • Papa Don’t Preach (Brian Cua Remix) - Quinn from Glee GLEEMIX!!! I’m more excited about this than you, Jermaine. Swear to God I’m a gay man. I keep tellin’ y’all. I feel so out of place… (via jermainia)
    305 plays
  • jhnmyr: I’ve been thinking of a way to say thank you for making Battle Studies such a huge success out of the gate… I’ve also been thinking of a way to use tumblr as a means of posting some more substantial stuff… So here’s a very raw, live solo version of “Edge of Desire” I just recorded in my apartment as a way to show my gratitude to you all for extending my time in this amazing career you’ve helped me build. I think if you were kind enough to spent the 13 bucks, you should get some free music for the next good while. So here it is. A song about late night longing recorded at 3am. iPhone dinging in the background and all…(that’s how I knew the take was going to be worth sticking with, as the best takes always get interrupted.) Thank you. More to come… John Download http://bit.ly/4Igzxc
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  • Flight of the Conchords - Business Time FAVORITE. I mean, very very favorite. (via samarie)
    102 plays
  • Otis Redding - These Arms Are Mine (via samarie)
    94 plays
  • John Mayer - All I Want For Christmas Is You I know what I want… (via fuckyeahjohnmayer | luxmusicakhaos)
    6052 plays
  • 30 Seconds to Mars (feat. Kanye West) - Hurricane Confession: I love 30 Seconds to Mars (and Jared Leto’s eyeliner) and I love Kanye West. And I love this song. (via thedailywhat)
    5119 plays
  • Lady Gaga & Journey - “Just Stop Believing” [Mashup] Holy shit. This is amazing! (via filigree)
    9464 plays
  • Incubus - Stellar Yay for same brain wavelengths! (via lamebot)
    180 plays
  • The Pharcyde - Passing Me By (via trevania | kushnstarbucks)
    707 plays
  • Glee Cast - Imagine (John Lennon Cover) I thought it was much more powerful with the deaf guy speaking, but still. Chills. (via gleeks | practicalhearts | fujiidom)
    2487 plays
  • junglejustine: Duran Duran - Come Undone Words, playing me deja vu Like a radio tune I swear I’ve heard before Chill, is it something real Or the magic I’m feeding off your fingers You know when people ask you, “what your favorite song?” and it’s hard to narrow it down to one song when you have a itunes collection of 7,000 songs. Well, I’ve finally come to the conclusion that this is my favorite song. I can listen to it over and over and never get tired of it. Something about the beat, something about the lyrics. The song is appropriate for so many things…a walk, fucking or simply lounging around. It’s perfect. Good choice. Very unconventional.
    288 plays
  • Jennifer Lopez - Louboutins I love this shit. Kill me now, or tell me I’m not alone. Anyone? Anyone? Jermainia?! Dammit.
    242 plays
  • Lady Gaga - Bad Romance (Electrolightz Freak Mix)(via nathanieljames | copycats)
    3207 plays
  • Theresa James & Jesse Frederick - Second Time Around more popularly known as the theme song from “Step By Step” (via nathanieljames)
    274 plays
  • Mika - Relax (Take It Easy) Will always reblog. Always always. One of my very favorite songs. (via samarie)
    169 plays
  • John Mayer - Assassin (via lashante | fuckyeahjohnmayer) I normally reblog things here to fuckyeahjohnmayer without comment. But wow. This is one of the most beautiful things I think I’ve ever heard. This.
    1162 plays
  • Tigercity - Fake Gold “If I were to direct a movie about a big time drug dealer/gangster, I’d use this song in the series of shots where the dealer is distributing the contraband all over the streets whilst reaping the so-called benefits…also, nosebleeds a-plenty from the over-consumption of cocaine.” - nathanieljames
    364 plays
  • John Mayer - Comfortable i loved you, grey sweatpants, no makeup, so perfectour love was comfortable and so broken inshe’s perfect, so flawless, i’m not impressedi want you back (via splitscreen)
    1016 plays
  • Stay Off The Fuckin’ Flowers - Blakroc (The Black Keys) ft. Raekwon The Black Keys’ hip-hop side project? Yes.The motherfucking chef? Yes.Both of them on one track? Fuck yes. (via nathanieljames | audio muffin)
    302 plays
  • EnVogue - Don’t Let Go (via robgonemild)
    295 plays
  • Joy Division - Love Will Tear Us Apart I’m seriously considering it…
    211 plays
  • John Mayer - Something’s Missing (via glitteringcloud9)
    332 plays
  • thephlipside: Beyonce ft Nicki Minaj, Lil Wayne - Sweet Dreams (Rmx) I’m a closet fan of the original version of this song :p Its got a sick beat and you can’t deny a good hook. Ask me again in a few weeks when I’m sick of it. This remix is from Lil Wayne’s mixtape, No Ceilings. You and I share a friggin’ brain, I swear. I haven’t admitted it but I really like Sweet Dreams, for the same reasons. But, what is that sample…? It’s right there on my mind and I can’t fucking think of it. And I first gave Nicki Minaj a listen after I saw her on the BET Awards and I really like her - how she switches up her voice a lot and everything makes me laugh. She seems to have a good sense of humor about herself, and seems pretty talented on top of that. I’ve been hearing about her for like a year now, I need to find out more.
    264 plays
  • Justin Timberlake - I Think She Knows (Interlude) jfkennedy: I love this part of “Lovestoned”, at the end when the beat breaks down. John Mayer called it 45 seconds of “ultimate sonic bliss” and he was right on. This is my favorite piece of musical work from Justin Timberlake, and it’s only 2:30 long. I agree with John Mayer and Jfkennedy. God this just does something to me. Beautiful.
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  • The Smiths - This Charming Man I would go out tonightBut I haven’t got a stitch to wearThis man said “It’s gruesome that someone so handsome should care.” (via peaceofmind | clairvoyancy)
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  • March 19, 12:00 PM

    No really, bitch, I LOVE YOU.

    There’s this girl in my life, this girl with a love of t-shirts that rivals my own, that will cry over anything and everything lovely and sweet, that laughs with all the zest of a child, and will defend those she loves with a terrifying vengeance. She is too beautiful for words, inside and out. She deserves everything life has to offer and more. And I love her.

    Last year when I wrote Miss’ birthday post, I hadn’t met her yet. This year, that seems impossible. I’m trying to figure out what life was like before the first time I felt her arms wrapped around me, squeezing all the air out of my lungs because she’s surprisingly strong. Life before I caught those contagious tears, doubled over in fits of laughter with her and realized that we roll our eyes at the same things, the same way. She is one of my very best friends, having been my main source of support, love and kicks in the ass over the past year in ways and situations I have absolutely no interest in detailing. She knows, I know, that’s all that matters.

    Our lives are so different now than they were then, in many ways. She and I don’t talk as much as we used to but, in a way, it’s a positive thing. There’s no more pain and uncertainty to support each other through. Our relationship is solid, built on so much more than instant messages and phone calls – it stands on faith in each other, on loyalty and pure adulation for one another.

    She’d be pleased to know that I’m sitting here blinking back tears as I type this, it always amuses her when I admit to it. It makes me think of our goodbye in Chicago last year, when I was trying to tell her  and the rest of our friends how much they meant to me, but I couldn’t get it out,  the words choked back by my heart swelling out of my chest with the love I felt. She held my hands as I struggled and we both tried to still our quivering bottom lips before just engulfing one another in a hug because it just wasn’t coming out, but she and they knew what I was trying to say.

    3769614664 6edaa2ab2e No really, bitch, I LOVE YOU.

    In a few months, I’ll see her again. It’s been too long. There’s only so many ways to tell her I love her from across the country and I plan on making sure she knows just how much I do when we’re together in New York. I’ve got the Chicago ready, all I need to do is press play.

    OMG BITCH I LOVE YOU. Let’s continue driving each other insane forever, yes?


    —————-
    Listening to: Michael Jackson – I Can’t Help It

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  • March 15, 12:00 AM

    Ebonics, and other things.

    Yesterday, I started to comment on my friend Cecily’s post but it ended up being a post in and of itself, so I figured it’d be best to make a post of it here.* She wrote about conversations she had with ladies in her neighborhood, where they planned to school their children, and how the fact that most of the children at the school were African American tied into their decisions. One woman she talked to didn’t want her child to go to their local elementary because she didn’t want him to learn ‘Ebonics’. Immediately after reading, I didn’t even really know what to say, but I wanted to comment. I felt that maybe, being a minority and having children that were mixed, and one child in particular that has been mistaken for fully white, I had a different perspective.

    Ebonics is, inherently, a racist term. It implies that black (ie., “ebony”) people speak in a dialect so broken and incomprehensible that it needs to be separated from the rest of the English language and learned. It may not have been coined negatively, but regardless, it is a sweeping generalization that paints black people as uneducated and incapable of understand or speaking as  “good as the white folks do.” You don’t have to be a politically correct über-liberal to see how that’s a bad thing.

    For her to assume that the children at that school all speak that way is prejudicial, and unless she plans to shield her child from all forms of entertainment, such as hip hop and Quentin Tarantino movies to name some off the top of my head, for the rest of his life, he’s going to learn it, at least some semblances of it, whether she likes it or not. And what’s wrong with that, really?

    I’m not dense enough to suggest that many of the black people I know aren’t more likely to say “Y’all niggas done lost yo damn minds, fah real doh” (spoken exactly as I typed it) rather than “you guys are insane, seriously” but so what? As long as these same people know the correct way to say what’s on their minds, and when to use that wonderful, wonderful thing called code-switching, what’s the problem? I don’t speak that way. I used to, when I was younger, but now, I don’t really bother with it, although if you smack me in the middle of a group of black people, such as my cousins on my grandfather’s side,  after a while I’ll fall back into it. Just like if I spend too much time with my grandparents or my boyfriend, every little bit of Southern in the way I speak will be exacerbated too. Still, being as I normally don’t talk like that, I find it seriously offensive that if she saw me entering a school, maybe with a little boy or girl that was my skin tone, she’d assume that I did. Just the way that I’m sure people here in the South see my tattoos and piercings and wrongly assume I’m a bitch with a long criminal record. That – the assumption based on appearances – is what’s prejudicial here.

    I won’t call her racist, because I’m very big on semantics, and there is an astounding difference between racism (ie., hating someone) and prejudice (ie., generalizing or having preconceived notions and opinions) in my opinion.  For a popular example of the difference  I consider between the two words, look at Ms. Morello from the show Everybody Hates Chris (an all around brilliant show). She frequently assumes Chris’ mother is a crackhead, his father is absent, he has a dozen brothers and sisters, and that he eats ribs and pig’s feet, but she doesn’t hate Chris or treat him unkindly or unfairly. She’s not racist, she’s prejudiced. I believe that White Privilege allows the average white person to believe things and feel things about other races that implicitly affect their view of the world, whether they are aware or have ill feelings or not.

    The lady Cecily was talking with may not have any idea that what she said was offensive, although I strongly doubt that. Why? Because I don’t believe she would have used that term or even brought up the race:school thing in the discussion had Cecily been a bit more brown, but she MAY be sheltered. Which, to me, says something else about her. Cecily lives in Philadelphia, right? There’s no way she could have had so little interaction with black people that she not realize that term was offensive unless she was almost purposefully avoiding it. “It” being interaction with black people.

    I worry about how parents like this, and the children who ultimately learn from them, will affect my children. Bella has a slight concept of color, and she calls herself pink and me brown, like Cecily’s daughter Tori does. For a while, she was seriously obsessed with the differences and somewhere along the way she learned that being pink was better than being brown. I don’t profess to be color blind – no one is, and if you are, you’re doing yourself and the world around you a disservice by ignoring the differences between the races – but a child should never get the impression that anyone is less than because of their skin. Which I guarantee you the child of that woman who doesn’t want him to ‘learn Ebonics’ is going to learn, listening to the conversations of his parents. It’s not too much of a stretch to think that eventually (whether coaxed or no) the child will learn to believe that since a school full of black people is inferior to a school full of white people, the same must be true as a rule for the general population. It is very possible for his parents and himself to be almost completely unaware of such a belief, too.

    Hence, the perpetuation of white privilege in America, repeatedly passed down, even unknowingly.

    I am hoping that no matter how black or white or Hispanic my daughters end up looking, or how gay or straight or bisexual they are, or how Christian or Muslim or Atheist they decide is right for them, that they are always not only tolerant and aware of the differences between them and others, but that they welcome situations that put them outside of their ‘comfort zones’, whatever those may be. How else are they supposed to grow or develop into tolerant individuals? I would hate for anything that I do, or anything that they pick up from other, more close minded people, to inhibit their ability to accept the world around them in a complete way.

    Family
    *Whoa. This was long. See why it needed to be its own post?!

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    Listening to: Toto – Africa

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  • March 12, 12:00 AM

    Vlog: WARNING! My boyfriend makes me giggly!

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    Notes:

    • I say “um” a lot. I know. Sorry. I also have an issue keeping my mouth still when I’m not talking. Sorry about that as well.
    • Chicago was his idea, I swear.
    • He’s really good at making irritated faces. Don’t pay them any attention.
    • Here’s a photo of his back, for reference (I don’t remember why he had a knife in his hand):

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  • March 11, 08:59 AM

    Somewhere between disturbed and elated.

    For just about The Bella’s entire life, I’ve been regulated to listening to nothing but The Beatles. They are her most favorite, and for the first four years of her life, no other musical groups existed. I have every. single. released. The Beatles track. ever.  in my iTunes. About 10-15 GBs of ‘em.  All for her, and her sister.

    Over the past year or so she’s been teeter-tottering between Michael Jackson and The Beatles, with a bit of Queen, David Bowie and Lady Gaga thrown in for good measure. It’s been better, needless to say, because while I fucking love The Beatles OMG PLEASE CAN WE LISTEN TO SOMETHING ELSE is what goes through my head every time we get in the car.

    Anyway, recently, she’s been expanding her musical tastes. She proclaimed a while ago that she didn’t like the kind of music where “people talk when they should be singing” (ie., rap), but then she heard It Takes Two by Rob Base & DJ E Z Rock and she was won over. I was relieved. Since then, she bounces around to all the hip hop she hears in the car, and I love it.

    The other day, she asked me to put ‘Love Will Tear Us Apart’ on her iPod. Cool. I obliged. Any child that likes Joy Division is awesome, needless to say. She was singing ‘The Crystal Ship’ to herself while she was coloring last week. The Doors? Girl you’re blowing my mind with this shit. I have a habit of playing The Smiths when I’m in the bathtub, and she has a habit of refusing to let me get any peace, and demanding I put ‘This Charming Man’ on repeat and bouncing around, singing along. I can’t even kick her out because really, that’s just amazing.

    Then yesterday, she asked me to put ‘Say Aah’ by Trey Songz on her iPod when we were on our way home.  I was like, “okay, sure – glad to see you opening up to more than the classics”. When we got back, I was about to, but I decided to listen more to the lyrics because Trey Songz is a nasty (SEXY AS ALL HELL) dude. And, maybe I’m being paranoid, but am I wrong in thinking that this whole song is *really* about swallowing jizz, rather than liquor?

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    I’m not sure I want her singing this. It’s a great song, but it’s weird enough to hear her singing “Why Don’t We Do It in The Road” at the top of her lungs. I’m pretty sure I can’t handle this, even if it’s not about that, because in the back of my head, I think it might be.

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    Listening to: Trey Songz – Say Aah ft. Fabolous

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  • March 07, 11:00 PM

    Q & A: Vlog #1

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    The question was asked by OHMommy, and it’s about my religious beliefs and how they affect my parenting. Yes, I am resting my chin on her head for most of the video. I know it’s supposed to be pronounced ‘vee-log’ but I REFUSE to say that. It’s stupid and I hate it.

    P.S.Read this. It explains why things look so different around here.

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