While many questioned her comportment, no one disputed her audacity. Nude servants gilded in gold leaf attended her. Bizarre wax mannequins sat as guests at her dining table. She bejeweled herself in live snakes and was infamous for her Lalique flask of absinthe that accompanied her evening constitutionals around the grounds, parading her beloved cheetahs on diamond-studded leashes, swathed in furs and nothing else, dubbing her thereafter the “naked sorceress.”
May 24th 1998 DO NOT READ UNTIL JULY 25TH [I wish I could remember why!]
Ugggh. Friday Night was when I went to L█████’s sleepver, the sleepover that ended friendships and bruised some [dun dun duuuuuuun].
Well all was well until L█████ started crying & L██ said it was mine, J████’s and M██████’s fault. Then later on L██ started crying after her nose started bleeding because J████ hit her with a pillow. I went to comfort her but all she gave me was silence [quality dramatic writing right there]. I asked her what was wrong about 5 times & she ignored me so I decided to go back to bed [I feel like this bloody nose was the final straw that broke the camels back.... of FRIENDSHIPS]. I felt totally gutted when she was spilling her heart out to L█████ & even more gutted when L█████ told me that L██ had said that I wasn’t the friend I used to be. Imagine that. Not even telling her best friend. [girl she's not going to tell YOU that YOU'RE not the ~friend you used to be]
Then tonight I found out that I was one of the last people L██ told why she hated J████. My feelings. Totally torn [wait are your feelings torn or are you torn on whose side to take because you're not the best friend you ~used to be?]. I called [on a landline!] J████ & told her why L██ hated her (because she keeps going on about A████, hurting [to the point of a nosebleed!] & teasing her & apparently [hahahaha it is unconfirmed] is very vain) [ok it has to be said that J████ was more obnoxious than all of us combined and it got to the point where I could only handle her in small doses before ditching her completely].
Basically L██ substituted me for L█████ & I substituted her for J████ [worst best friends ever]. Then on the phone she was going on about how J████’s a bitch blah blah blah. I can’t & won’t take it anymore, I have feelings too [LOL you are basically butthurt that your BFF didn't confide in you about hating another girl in the group].
[ok this next bit was ERASED because at some point I thought it was a good idea to let L██ read my diary, which is why some pages are ticked (ok to read) or crossed (not ok for her to read). I can't for the life of me make out what it used to say but it must've been pretty bad!]
Top totty: Guess. (& Z.H) [so glad I was able to put aside my emotional devastation to still list my TTFT]
It’s vivid in my memory. I was sitting on the left side of the bus when Mikey walked in with Joe. I knew who he was because I had been a fan of his band since I saw them play the Fireside bowl in 2002.
“Hey Mikey, this is Chris. Chris this is Mikey.”
Since that day in 2004, we haven’t stopped talking. Through all the ups and downs of both of our lives, he has always been a solid dude. Ask anyone who knows and they will tell you that every one in that band are genuine motherfuckers who never let their heads get too big.
I was not only a friend, but a legitimate fan. So when I read the news last night I found it difficult to pay attention to anything. I had to turn off the television and ask myself why I felt so bummed. I don’t expect anything to last forever, especially bands. And when my favorite bands broke up in the past it was met with a shrug and a, “Eh, yeah, those things happen.” But last night I was actually upset. I would potentially never see them live again. They would be emotionally shelved away with the greats and I would have to move on. But I didn’t want to move on. Something in me feels like it was incomplete. That their work wasn’t finished. When so many great artists over-stay their welcome and drag their legacy into the ground, that should have broken up, and stayed broken up, one or two records ago - it always seems to be the wrong bands who end up leaving. Because to me, Conventional Weapons was the most solid record they ever released and I would have killed to see those songs live. It’s like I want to shake them by the shoulders and say, “No, motherfuckers. Not yet. You don’t get to leave us now.”
And for those people shaking their heads saying, “Ugh, it’s only a band.” Clearly you have never heard music before. I mean, like, really heard music. It infects us with emotion and passion, oftentimes more than people that have said “I love you.” So when something so genuinely inspirational and compelling leaves our lives abruptly, yes, it feels like someone has taken something important from us too soon. Like we never got to say goodbye, and part of us feels slightly cheated.
So now we have to live off the memories. The great nights we had singing along with friends to words that lifted us up and motivated our lives and all I can think of is to say is Thank You.
*Pic outtake. We both look greasy and drunk. Note Gerard’s hair. He asked me to give him bangs so I walked to Walgreens, bought a some peanut M&Ms, a pair of $5 scissors, and made him look like one of the Ramones.
There’s one girl though who’s always in the audience. When I look accidentally in her direction, she lets out an awful yell. And sometimes she gets hysterical. The other morning she got that way and they told her they’d let her come up and see me. When I saw her, she was still crying. After a while she promised she’d be a good girl if I’d give her my bow tie—you know how girls have started to wear bow ties. So I did and she promised to be quiet. The next day, I got out on the stage and there she was yelling worse than before.